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Your BF/GF is Cheating on You…Now What?

If you have ever uncovered the painful truth that the person you feel you love is cheating on you, you most likely asked yourself:What am I supposed to do now? What should my response be to this betrayal? There is no doubt you have felt a broad range of confusing emotions. As you can imagine, all the feelings you have had make it very difficult to quickly make any kind of wise decision on what to do next.

It’s significant to understand there are different kinds of behavior people call cheating, some of which might not be cheating at all.

What Is Cheating?

For example, it’s significant to understand there are different kinds of behavior people call cheating, some of which are not cheating at all. If someone asks you out just once, and then soon after asks someone else out, that’s not cheating. That’s simply dating around. Believe me, there’s nothing wrong with dating around. On the other arm, if you have been dating that person for a while and you both commit to dating exclusively, and that person dates someone else behind your back, that’s cheating. Obviously, if someone says Will you be my fiance?, and you accept, and then they date behind your back, that’s cheating. If the person you are dating for some time has hookup, or inappropriate sexual behavior with another person, that’s cheating.

So what should you do when you know your bf/gf is cheating on you?

Don’t let the lies and deceit of your bf/gf haul you down into the gutter with them.

Now Take These Three Steps To Protect Yourself:

  1. The very first thing you need to do is wait. Don’t do anything. Let your feelings silent down. Regardless of what you have discovered, there’s no need to go around trashing the person who’s cheated on you, or even the one he/she did it with. Stay above the betrayal. Don’t let the lies and deceit of your bf/gf haul you down into the gutter with them. Keep your deep sense of private dignity and healthy self-worth. You only make matters worse by acting out of anger and confusion. The entire world doesn’t need to know you have been violated.
  2. Surround yourself with good friends and wise counselors who can help you sort through your emotions and detect what has actually taken place. Get your friends and others you trust to calmly uncover what has been happening behind your back. Usually your friends are the very first to know. These people are priceless to you because you can talk through your emotions with them. Left to yourself you will only get caught in a circle of confusion, hurt, and resentment.
  3. Confront your bf/gf in private. Confrontation is never effortless, but you will never get to the bottom of what has happened or begin healing until you have talked with your cheating bf/gf. It’s very significant to have this confrontation face-to-face if possible. Figure language (facial expressions, etc.) will tell you a lot. Make sure you have the facts before the confrontation. If you attempt to confront without evidence, you will most likely be lied to or stir up deep resentment in the person you are accusing.Sometimes the person being confronted will attempt to blame you for the very thing he/she has done. This is the kind of practice Kristy had:I just broke up with my beau of two years. It was a break-up/makeup relationship. He would do something wrong, like cheat, and somehow blame it on me; make me feel like it was my fault that he cheated, that somehow I drove him to it. Then he’d break up with me, and a few days later, we’d get back together.

Sometimes you feel like causing a big scene to bring shame to the other person, and you end up just looking like a idiot.

While confronting, deal with the source of the problem, your bf/gf, and don’t concentrate on the person they’ve cheated with. Sometimes you feel like bringing shame to the other person, and you end up just looking like a loser. Attempt to detect if your cheating bf/gf is truly repentant for what he/she has done. Some people are just sorry because they got caught. It will take time for you to know whether or not your bf/gf is truly sorry for their betrayal of you. Some people when confronted become defensive, belligerent, and angry. That is a good sign they have no intention of ever getting back with you again. See their reaction for what it is. Sometimes it’s just better to walk away and stay away.

Determining whether or not you are going to attempt and salvage the relationship could be one of the most significant decisions you will ever make.

  • Consider a time-out from your relationship. Determining whether or not you are going to attempt and salvage the relationship could be one of the most significant decisions you will ever make. A time-out will give you a chance to get wise counsel from other people and determine whether or not the relationship is worth saving. Don’t make the mistake of KT: My ex bf was a masturbate and treated me so badly. He’d call me names and he’d cheat on me and give me the guilt journey telling I will never find anyone like him or even as good as him cause he is that unique. All my friends told me to leave himthat my friends are all that I need to be glad, and a good man will come along when he comes along. But I didn’t listen to my friends, even however they have given me very good advice for two years now. I just didn’t listen cause my ex bf sort of brain washed me in a way. Now that I understand and accept it, I am doing so much better.
  • It will take time for the relationship to heal, if ever. Trust has been shattered and recovering trust takes a long time.

    If you determine the relationship is salvageable, your cheating bf/gf will have to understand it will take time for the relationship to heal, if ever. Trust has been shattered and recovering trust takes a long time. In the end, if you determine the relationship cannot be healed or mended, take some off from dating to find yourself and permit yourself to become stronger. Some relationships cannot be saved no matter what you do. So don’t bring unnecessary drama and unnecessary hurt into your life by not letting go.

    Steven said something incredible when he commented:Everybody has free will and [my gf] had the will to cheat as she pleases and I can’t switch that. But I also have free will. The free will to not give her power over me and to stir on to lead a productive life. The people who loved me and the ones I loved were counting on me. I dropped my pride and cried out for help. Know your own self-worth and sob out for the help you need. You are worth it!

    Check out my other blogs that might help you if you’ve just been cheated on:

    when a man love his phone ,whenever a text comes in he hides while he is textin so I cant see..

    and its not like I can read it because he always delete his text..it kills me when he does these things

    I have a bought that my bf cheat on my back side . N when ever m attempting to talk about this he begin weeping in front of me n said no m not cheating on you m earnestly love u n all that . Plz tell me what to do . M emotionally confused . There is a war inbetween my heart n my brain .

    Dating someone for about two months and determined to budge in with her since her and i BOTH thought things were going so well. Had a excursion planned to a convention before I commenced dating her so i could truly back out of it. Found out that while i was going t be on this journey, she was going to cheat with me with some other dude. Confronted her about it and I forgave her. Month or two goes by, witnessed that she was sending pics to some random stud, and then while I had some family issues happening at the moment and I was off attempting to mend them, she dreamed to visit the same boy from before to cheat on me. I love this lady, she keeps planning our future together, telling what we should do, what we will do in the future, but three times, and I still forgave her…will she indeed do it again?

    Got a msg from a random chick and dude telling my gf cheated idk what to do I asked her about it but she said it wasn’t true..they where snapchats inbetween them

    my bf of nine years acts like he is single on Facebook and will ask anybody out on it, even his sister trys to get him with her friends. i can’t take it no more! when I told him I know what he’s up to, he says to stay out of his business :(. we met in middle school and I never been with anyone else. I love him so much!! this makes me not want to live anymore…

    Yea I bet his friends list private is Two! Same boat just opposite Honestly im sure your a beautiful female that a man will swoop you up in seconds! Hol ya head up baby female!

    I am 37, my gf is 25.. I recently had suspicions that my gf cheated on me with one of her work stud friends.. I confronted him.. He came clean and told me it happened a duo times.. I confronted my gf about it about two weeks ago, we talked for hours about it.. I was crushed!! I haven’t been no angel my entire life but she is one woman that ive been truly faithful to.. I can’t stop thinking about this everyday.. Knowing that she did this to me.. I want to budge past this, I told her that I want this relationship.. she seems genuinely upset about this and wants to stir on with our relationship. I just don’t know how to stir on from this.. Any and all advice would help!!

    We are hurting with you. Stay strong. You deserve so much better! Talk with us online anytime, we are here for you! http://www.thehopeline.com/GetHelp/

    My gf and I have been together for eight months now. She admitted to telling that she loved her ex during our fourth month and then she told another ex she had feelings for him during our seventh. Idk what to do Bc I love her so much. Please help

    Me n my bf almost three yrs in love .but now he telling that he don’t need me anymore.i think he have another paramour..wht should I do.i don’t know..I love him alot .now adays i blubbering n mad .should I make fresh bf to make him jealous?plz help me.😢

    Our talk system can translate many languages. Please talk with a HopeCoach about what is going on with you ex. We are here to listen and help. http://www.thehopeline.com/gethelp.

    its either u lve her or u leave her alone shame in this one

    Leave her. There is nothing much to be said here. If she had respect for you and your common well-doings, then the 2nd man wouldn’t even exist. Face the truth that there are endless opportunities out there to meet your true love.

    I have been dating this dame and I went to see family for a week and she texts me that she was unfaithful in our relationship and that she kissed another boy. I was enraged but I didn’t let her she it. I love her so much and I would do anything to make it work inbetween us. She says she is indeed sorry and that she needs time to gather herself, I am worried so bad. She said that wile she gathers herself we aren’t dating and that she wants me to be there for her when she is ready, but I might just be assuming the worst but I think this entire “gathering myself” thing is her attempting to get with the other man, because we aren’t dating and it won’t be cheating and she wants to come back to me when it doesn’t work out. I love her so much and I would do anything for her. I need her in my life and I need help. What should I do?

    I love how the author’s very first advice is not to tell anyone. Keeping your fucking partner’s infidelity secret only helps them maintain a veneer of normality and hurts you instead. What garbage.

    I am sorry you misunderstood Dawson’s advice. Part one is about protecting your own self-worth and Dawson suggests finding people you can trust to talk to about what happened, “Surround yourself with good friends and wise counselors who can help you sort through your emotions and detect what has actually taken place.” HopeCoaches are available on talk 24/7.

    My gf of two years cheated on me with my friend for a year. She can’t face me to talk about why she did it

    Just found out my gf is cheating things have been difficult for a while and she left her facebook on and I found messages she gave me her password for her facebook and email address just a duo on months ago when she had a stroke and i nursed her back to health I got into serious finical difficulty since I had a lot of time off work and walking a lean line now with my bosses. She has bipolar and it could be down to that but seen she’s on pof and free dating as well as sleeping with her ex. I just don’t know what to do due to her instability she was manhandled by her ex spouse as was her two children who look up to me as a father. We’ve been together for almost three years and have been engaged we announced it when she had the stroke but she recently called it off telling she’s scarred about getting tied down again. Any ideas about what to do as I don’t want to lose her and with her bipolar it may quiet down again and lodge but things are difficult at the moment.

    I am so sorry you are going through this. You sound like a indeed stable and loyal person. This is a lot for one person to treat. You can talk with us anytime 24/7 and we can help you sort through some solutions. We are here for you – http://www.thehopeline.com/gethelp/

    My fiance cheated on me last summer. We have been together for ten years, engaged for Four. We have two children together, and his two children from a previous marriage live with us also. He confessed that he cheated on me and that the lady was pregnant. I told him I was willing to work on our relationship and forgive him. He told me he had feelings for her, and was not in love with me anymore. She ended up having a miscarriage a few months later, and he assured me that they were just gonna be friends, they also worked together. I was not ok with that and just had to deal with it as I was willing to do anything to make it work. He told me last December that he wasnt communticating with her anymore, they were just coworkers. It was very hard and there have been lots of fights and arguments. Then two months ago she contacted me on facebook and told me they were still eyeing each other and screenshotted tons of text messages. He told her he loved her, and was still sleeping with her the entire time. I am very hurt and dont know if i can trust him again. He has lied to me this entire time. He begged me for another chance and told me I am the one he wants to be with. Im not persuaded that hes not still talking to her. She no longer works with him. I dont know what to do or believe anymore.

    I was moving my gf’s phone off the bed the other night when I noticed a reply to a Craigslist ad she posted for Feb and I’m pretty tore up I don’t know what I should do next monthwould be four years and we live together how do I confront her

    My fiance and i have been together for about almost three years. We were suppose to get married in December. Our relationship for about a year was pretty unhealty. i never wished to leave and neither did she. I never treated her right and disrespected her on uncountable occasions and never would listen to her. The night of my bday i had shoved her and humilated her infront of all of our friends. A few days later she said she couldnt take it anymore and left. There was alot of grey area. Well while she was gone she ended up meeting someone. I found the evidence a few weeks after my bday. We continued to stay separated but she said she wished to work it out and go to counseling. I recently found out durning the time we were still apart but after i found out she cheated on me, she sent the lady flowers. She is living back home now and we are still going to counseling. She said she has completley cut it off with the chick but i just dont know and im very hurt

    My gf cheated on me at a work party utterly toasted with a coworker and I don’t know what to do

    i had a flawless relationship of three & half years and then she went to calcutta for her studies and i was all alone i felt like i was left out and after few months she commenced to disregard me she blocked me in instagram, whatsapp and even put my phone no in reject list then all of unexpected a stud txted me telling stop calling his gf i was mad but the fact was that man was from the same college where my gf was studying iam feeling so down right now and i dont know what to do.

    ok here goes i never done this but any help would be appreciated. In Oct of two thousand fourteen my wifey passed away at forty two all of a sudden devastated me, for about six months i was very alone so went on dating sites and found a woman i began dating. Way to soon i know now. well to make a long story brief after a few months i moved her in with me and things i thought where going ok, by the way by me moving her in it helped her one hundred times financially and i pay all the bills and ask her for no financial support at all. So i find out in August after we had a argument a crimson flag went off to check dating sites and wham there she was on the one we met on, Since February meeting guys behind my back at least six to Ten. and oh yea she was married three times before and never ever talks about her past and gets mad when i ask her to. so i cleared my head and the next day confronted her about it and she said it was my fault i was pushing her away by not getting over my wifey. well then i found her on at least eight more sites and her texts messages where very detailed and she admitted to meeting guys for attention i wasn’t providing her blah blah blah. So since then i put my life on hold and have done nothing but work on this relationship attempting to budge forward and yes i put ninety nine percent of my baggage down about my wifey because i know how i was and it was very hard to let go. After being Married twenty four years in a 100% trustful marriage. I linked out FB accounts and said no more hiding her phone and no secretes. Well I’m having a truly hard time trusting her again even however she says she’s not doing anything. I’m not sure but i think she may be a serial cheater from everything i read. She say she can just shut her mind off and not think of anything like she has no guilt and can act like everything is fine. when we talk she always says I’m rehashing what happened. WONDER WHY!! I lost twenty five Lbs in three weeks over this krap and I’m sick of being sick over it. its been over two months now and I’m still attempting but i got this bad feeling its just a matter of time before she does it again. there is a lot more i could tell you but i wont bore you. any thoughts or advice would be good. Thanks.

    I’ve been with my beau for two years now, he’s done various things in the past year (messaging women/saving there numbers/social media names to add later on etc) in August he went on holiday with his dad his cousin and there two friends for five days, I thought everything was flawless before he left, During the holiday he added a woman from his cousins phone and they obviously began to talk (this was on an app he had swore he never had) and obviously just downloaded it while he was on holiday… I was fully oblivious of this until 1-2 weeks after his come back, we was driving in his car and he’s music was playing – he got a FaceTime call from a number saved under ‘A’ and I obviously questioned him he said he didn’t know so I accepted the call and to my surprise was a youthfull damsel in her hooter-sling as soon as she eyed me she disconnected the phone. I attempted to ring but there was no response so I text her from his phone telling who is this, she claimed it was the wrong person.. I was going crazy at my beau attempting to get the truth from him we eventually got to his friends house I attempted calling her again the female refused to speak to me and my beau was on the phone to her screaming telling ‘who the F are you how dare you lie about me’ ‘I don’t know you, I have a gf’ I was blubbering so much I had to walk away for a breath – but when I walked away he begged her not to tell me I woke up to a message from her the next morning with her telling me everything he had said he told her he dreamed ‘a serious relationship’ and asked for nude photos it honestly crushed me- he had told her she wasn’t permitted to save any of his messages she had mentioned to me she found this suspicious- she literally told me all the things he was telling to her and while he was on holiday he was being so nice to me. Earlier in the day before I had found out he had never been more horrible to me, he made me get in his car was driving ridiculously quick telling me my mother and father think I’m a liability and they hate me and I also suffer with depression and had attempted once before to commit suicide- he even said that they wouldn’t have cared if I did and that no one would care apart from him, as we came to a set of ref lights I attempted to get out the car and he grabbed me by my neck, the way he looked at me was not the person I fell in love with, he was so different this day and later in the day is when the female face timed him while we was in the car together, She told me the next day that that day he was begging to meet her but she was busy. This is obviously why he was so evil to me. I don’t know what to do because I haven’t loved anyone more than him – it’s now November and last month I found him watching fountains of porn online and texting one of those hookup people things, We’ve argued so much since and I think it’s the underlying issue that how much agony he caused me I just can’t forgive him I would never be unloyal to who I have made a commitment too- I’ve attempted to leave him fairly a few times since and he blackmails me by telling degrading things about my figure and that no one would want me, he also says so much that he will ‘bait’ me and post pictures of me online, he’s told me to die after attempting to commit suicide and told me no one would care if I did, he is always telling things about my bod which I now downright hate, I’m so stuck and I don’t know what to do he was everything I would’ve ever asked for in the very first year of our relationship, I don’t even know who he is anymore – he says if he can’t have me no one can, He’s stopped me from eyeing all of my friends but one and even then I’m not permitted to go out she will have to come to my house, during arguments if I attempt to defend myself to hurt me he tells me he’s cheated on me with nine chicks all are ‘so much better’ than me, he says I’m a ‘bed warmer’ and asks me ‘how his other ladies taste’ he does whatever he likes when he likes and I feel he just sees me as his possession now. A number of times when I have attempted to leave him he tells me he’s going to kill himself he has even cut my name and lots of other things into his gams and sent pictures to me, he’s text his mum telling ‘you won’t see me again and to thank my gf’ I honestly don’t know what to do I haven’t told anyone. I am so stuck and so lost

    It sounds like you are in a physically and emotionally abusive relationship. All of the manipulation and cheating is a reflection on his character. You may need help leaving him. Do you have someone you can trust and tell about what is happening? We are here for you 24/7 to help you work through a plan of escape and to provide resources. Click the “talk now” button to embark the conversation with a HopeCoach.

    My damsel cheat on me, few days ago she said she going back to her sister house but turns fthat she going to meet with the dude she cheat with, fortunately Her phone left in my car and I drove away and there I spotted her talk and i read everything, that how i know she cheating on me. Then I just play her game, but the ache is there, what should I do?

    It is truly good that the two of you are talking about it. Good open truthful communication is a truly significant part of a healthy relationship. We have a free eBook on cheating that the both of you could read through together. It talks about building trust and about what causes cheating and more. Here is the link – http://info.thehopeline.com/relationshipscheating-ebook

    Colton, It’s significant that you talk to someone about how you are feeling. You deserved better and we care. Please talk online with one of our HopeCoaches that will listen and help you through this at http://www.thehopeline.com/gethelp.

    hi guys i know most of u wont be interested in my story. But i liked a woman we began to talk and after a few weeks she told she was divorced. I was heart violated but i tho’ hey i liked her when i did know this how can i say no to her when i got to know her now. After this i commenced to love her more then before. I desired to make up for other things that happened to her in past. Surely i made mistakes but i did what i could for her. She was bipolar when we were in 3rd year of med school. That was hardest time for us. All of unexpected some days she used to asked me to beg she didn’t got pregnant. And i used to laugh like wtfff? How i didnt even touch u. Years went by and we went back to our countries for house job in hospitals. And i was mad and sad about that, I began to be upset and we had arguments and those argument led to fight. We went back and forward. One she will b all fine next day a stranger. Then after duo months she said she need time to think anyways we stopped talking. I got to know from my friends thats she is talking to other people but when i used to ask her she used to say im not and im studying for exams. Anyways i love her so much that i never said a word about it. I loved her so much that i got to know that she cheated on me many times thats y she used to say Plead IM NOT PREGNANT. Today i got to know this its horrible for me. I gave everything to that lady just cos hse was cracked she said she is blessed that she got divorced so she found me and i made her love life again. now i know she is there living glad life and me here thinking howling and imagining her.

    Hey my gf cheated on me because I was always accusing her of so she had never done anything t till now I feel like it was my fault for pushing her that far but I also feel hurt wat should I do

    I think my ex cheated on me while we were dating. We broke up back in July but we were still living together until the end of October when we both moved out into different places. Across those months we would sleep together on and off and we joked around telling that we became friends with benefits. After the budge out, I attempted to stay in contact because he says that we would get back together in time. We broke up because we were fighting a lot and we agreed that we both needed space to grow. I spotted him a duo of times and he’d flirt with me and made it seem like he dreamed me. I didn’t want to rush him but I wished him back. But I determined I’d wait til he was ready to get back together. And now just recently I found out he’s been witnessing someone for awhile. He got my hopes up, broke my heart and didn’t even care. He displayed no sympathy, lied even after I caught them out together. How do I stir on? This is my very first break up and I’ve dated him for six and half years, we even talked about marriage. I’m going crazy…. plz help….

    Contemplation is the cousin of an act

    i eyed my Girlfriends picture on another guys IG ans she told me she is modeling footwear for the stud, The stud also posted a picture with my lady friend on her birth day, eve posted another picture of the fellow and my girlfirnd on fresh year. Still my woman friend is telling me that she is not the person posting the picture, she said the dude is crushing on her. What should i do ??

    My gf who was one year junior than me was with me in relationship a few years ago… Then she began to get affairs with some other fellow who is one of my friend. I don’t have anything to do but I still plead for her and I will proceed to plead for her until I get her back….

    Lately my gf cheated on me after one year relationship , I found out she was with her ex bf for four years while being with me . She was going out late night lately telling that going to meet her relative and I followed her car then it was her ex bf house . I have called him and tell him the situation then both of us confronted infront, then she says she wants her ex BF . After few days she came back to me telling that it was her mistake and ask for forgiveness I was angry at very first and scolded her for doing bad to me then I accept her after few weeks she is still blaming me telling that it’s not more the same and I am treating her bad but to be fair I am attempting my best and she says that she starts to hate me . And I found out yesterday she is using another phone and was online till morning . To be fair I don’t know what to do …

    The boy I’ve been dating for two years have told me that he has feelings for another woman. But he doesn’t love her as much as he loves me (He said this in his own words). I’m not sure what to do. I am in so much ache.. He has cheated on me before but that was over a year ago and he attempted his very best to regain my trust and when I almost trusted him fully he goes to tell me this.. I confronted him about her and he didn’t hesitate to admit his wrong doing. I don’t know anymore. Ugh.

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    Your BF/GF is Cheating on You…Now What?

    If you have ever uncovered the painful truth that the person you feel you love is cheating on you, you most likely asked yourself:What am I supposed to do now? What should my response be to this betrayal? There is no doubt you have felt a broad range of confusing emotions. As you can imagine, all the feelings you have had make it very difficult to quickly make any kind of wise decision on what to do next.

    It’s significant to understand there are different kinds of behavior people call cheating, some of which might not be cheating at all.

    What Is Cheating?

    For example, it’s significant to understand there are different kinds of behavior people call cheating, some of which are not cheating at all. If someone asks you out just once, and then soon after asks someone else out, that’s not cheating. That’s simply dating around. Believe me, there’s nothing wrong with dating around. On the other arm, if you have been dating that person for a while and you both commit to dating exclusively, and that person dates someone else behind your back, that’s cheating. Obviously, if someone says Will you be my fiance?, and you accept, and then they date behind your back, that’s cheating. If the person you are dating for some time has hookup, or inappropriate sexual behavior with another person, that’s cheating.

    So what should you do when you know your bf/gf is cheating on you?

    Don’t let the lies and deceit of your bf/gf haul you down into the gutter with them.

    Now Take These Three Steps To Protect Yourself:

    1. The very first thing you need to do is wait. Don’t do anything. Let your feelings peaceful down. Regardless of what you have discovered, there’s no need to go around trashing the person who’s cheated on you, or even the one he/she did it with. Stay above the betrayal. Don’t let the lies and deceit of your bf/gf haul you down into the gutter with them. Keep your deep sense of individual dignity and healthy self-worth. You only make matters worse by acting out of anger and confusion. The entire world doesn’t need to know you have been violated.
    2. Surround yourself with good friends and wise counselors who can help you sort through your emotions and detect what has actually taken place. Get your friends and others you trust to calmly uncover what has been happening behind your back. Usually your friends are the very first to know. These people are priceless to you because you can talk through your emotions with them. Left to yourself you will only get caught in a circle of confusion, hurt, and resentment.
    3. Confront your bf/gf in private. Confrontation is never effortless, but you will never get to the bottom of what has happened or begin healing until you have talked with your cheating bf/gf. It’s very significant to have this confrontation face-to-face if possible. Assets language (facial expressions, etc.) will tell you a lot. Make sure you have the facts before the confrontation. If you attempt to confront without evidence, you will most likely be lied to or stir up deep resentment in the person you are accusing.Sometimes the person being confronted will attempt to blame you for the very thing he/she has done. This is the kind of practice Kristy had:I just broke up with my bf of two years. It was a break-up/makeup relationship. He would do something wrong, like cheat, and somehow blame it on me; make me feel like it was my fault that he cheated, that somehow I drove him to it. Then he’d break up with me, and a few days later, we’d get back together.

    Sometimes you feel like causing a big scene to bring shame to the other person, and you end up just looking like a idiot.

    While confronting, deal with the source of the problem, your bf/gf, and don’t concentrate on the person they’ve cheated with. Sometimes you feel like bringing shame to the other person, and you end up just looking like a loser. Attempt to detect if your cheating bf/gf is truly repentant for what he/she has done. Some people are just sorry because they got caught. It will take time for you to know whether or not your bf/gf is truly sorry for their betrayal of you. Some people when confronted become defensive, belligerent, and angry. That is a good sign they have no intention of ever getting back with you again. See their reaction for what it is. Sometimes it’s just better to walk away and stay away.

    Determining whether or not you are going to attempt and salvage the relationship could be one of the most significant decisions you will ever make.

  • Consider a time-out from your relationship. Determining whether or not you are going to attempt and salvage the relationship could be one of the most significant decisions you will ever make. A time-out will give you a chance to get wise counsel from other people and determine whether or not the relationship is worth saving. Don’t make the mistake of KT: My ex beau was a jack and treated me so badly. He’d call me names and he’d cheat on me and give me the guilt journey telling I will never find anyone like him or even as good as him cause he is that unique. All my friends told me to leave himthat my friends are all that I need to be glad, and a good man will come along when he comes along. But I didn’t listen to my friends, even however they have given me very good advice for two years now. I just didn’t listen cause my ex bf sort of brain washed me in a way. Now that I understand and accept it, I am doing so much better.
  • It will take time for the relationship to heal, if ever. Trust has been shattered and recovering trust takes a long time.

    If you determine the relationship is salvageable, your cheating bf/gf will have to understand it will take time for the relationship to heal, if ever. Trust has been shattered and recovering trust takes a long time. In the end, if you determine the relationship cannot be healed or mended, take some off from dating to find yourself and permit yourself to become stronger. Some relationships cannot be saved no matter what you do. So don’t bring unnecessary drama and unnecessary hurt into your life by not letting go.

    Steven said something incredible when he commented:Everybody has free will and [my gf] had the will to cheat as she pleases and I can’t switch that. But I also have free will. The free will to not give her power over me and to stir on to lead a productive life. The people who loved me and the ones I loved were counting on me. I dropped my pride and cried out for help. Know your own self-worth and sob out for the help you need. You are worth it!

    Check out my other blogs that might help you if you’ve just been cheated on:

    when a boy love his phone ,whenever a text comes in he hides while he is textin so I cant see..

    and its not like I can read it because he always delete his text..it kills me when he does these things

    I have a bought that my bf cheat on my back side . N when ever m attempting to talk about this he begin howling in front of me n said no m not cheating on you m earnestly love u n all that . Plz tell me what to do . M emotionally confused . There is a war inbetween my heart n my brain .

    Dating someone for about two months and determined to stir in with her since her and i BOTH thought things were going so well. Had a journey planned to a convention before I commenced dating her so i could indeed back out of it. Found out that while i was going t be on this excursion, she was going to cheat with me with some other stud. Confronted her about it and I forgave her. Month or two goes by, witnessed that she was sending pics to some random man, and then while I had some family issues happening at the moment and I was off attempting to mend them, she wished to visit the same dude from before to cheat on me. I love this lady, she keeps planning our future together, telling what we should do, what we will do in the future, but three times, and I still forgave her…will she indeed do it again?

    Got a msg from a random chick and fellow telling my gf cheated idk what to do I asked her about it but she said it wasn’t true..they where snapchats inbetween them

    my beau of nine years acts like he is single on Facebook and will ask anybody out on it, even his sister trys to get him with her friends. i can’t take it no more! when I told him I know what he’s up to, he says to stay out of his business :(. we met in middle school and I never been with anyone else. I love him so much!! this makes me not want to live anymore…

    Yea I bet his friends list private is Two! Same boat just opposite Honestly im sure your a beautiful female that a man will swoop you up in seconds! Hol ya head up baby dame!

    I am 37, my gf is 25.. I recently had suspicions that my gf cheated on me with one of her work fellow friends.. I confronted him.. He came clean and told me it happened a duo times.. I confronted my gf about it about two weeks ago, we talked for hours about it.. I was crushed!! I haven’t been no angel my entire life but she is one woman that ive been truly faithful to.. I can’t stop thinking about this everyday.. Knowing that she did this to me.. I want to budge past this, I told her that I want this relationship.. she seems genuinely upset about this and wants to budge on with our relationship. I just don’t know how to budge on from this.. Any and all advice would help!!

    We are hurting with you. Stay strong. You deserve so much better! Talk with us online anytime, we are here for you! http://www.thehopeline.com/GetHelp/

    My gf and I have been together for eight months now. She admitted to telling that she loved her ex during our fourth month and then she told another ex she had feelings for him during our seventh. Idk what to do Bc I love her so much. Please help

    Me n my bf almost three yrs in love .but now he telling that he don’t need me anymore.i think he have another paramour..wht should I do.i don’t know..I love him alot .now adays i blubbering n mad .should I make fresh bf to make him jealous?plz help me.😢

    Our talk system can translate many languages. Please talk with a HopeCoach about what is going on with you ex. We are here to listen and help. http://www.thehopeline.com/gethelp.

    its either u lve her or u leave her alone shame in this one

    Leave her. There is nothing much to be said here. If she had respect for you and your common well-doings, then the 2nd man wouldn’t even exist. Face the truth that there are endless opportunities out there to meet your true love.

    I have been dating this woman and I went to see family for a week and she texts me that she was unfaithful in our relationship and that she kissed another fellow. I was enraged but I didn’t let her she it. I love her so much and I would do anything to make it work inbetween us. She says she is indeed sorry and that she needs time to gather herself, I am worried so bad. She said that wile she gathers herself we aren’t dating and that she wants me to be there for her when she is ready, but I might just be assuming the worst but I think this entire “gathering myself” thing is her attempting to get with the other dude, because we aren’t dating and it won’t be cheating and she wants to come back to me when it doesn’t work out. I love her so much and I would do anything for her. I need her in my life and I need help. What should I do?

    I love how the author’s very first advice is not to tell anyone. Keeping your fucking partner’s infidelity secret only helps them maintain a veneer of normality and hurts you instead. What garbage.

    I am sorry you misunderstood Dawson’s advice. Part one is about protecting your own self-worth and Dawson suggests finding people you can trust to talk to about what happened, “Surround yourself with good friends and wise counselors who can help you sort through your emotions and detect what has actually taken place.” HopeCoaches are available on talk 24/7.

    My gf of two years cheated on me with my friend for a year. She can’t face me to talk about why she did it

    Just found out my gf is cheating things have been difficult for a while and she left her facebook on and I found messages she gave me her password for her facebook and email address just a duo on months ago when she had a stroke and i nursed her back to health I got into serious finical difficulty since I had a lot of time off work and walking a skinny line now with my bosses. She has bipolar and it could be down to that but seen she’s on pof and free dating as well as sleeping with her ex. I just don’t know what to do due to her instability she was manhandled by her ex spouse as was her two children who look up to me as a father. We’ve been together for almost three years and have been engaged we announced it when she had the stroke but she recently called it off telling she’s scarred about getting tied down again. Any ideas about what to do as I don’t want to lose her and with her bipolar it may silent down again and lodge but things are difficult at the moment.

    I am so sorry you are going through this. You sound like a truly stable and loyal person. This is a lot for one person to treat. You can talk with us anytime 24/7 and we can help you sort through some solutions. We are here for you – http://www.thehopeline.com/gethelp/

    My fiance cheated on me last summer. We have been together for ten years, engaged for Four. We have two children together, and his two children from a previous marriage live with us also. He confessed that he cheated on me and that the chick was pregnant. I told him I was willing to work on our relationship and forgive him. He told me he had feelings for her, and was not in love with me anymore. She ended up having a miscarriage a few months later, and he assured me that they were just gonna be friends, they also worked together. I was not ok with that and just had to deal with it as I was willing to do anything to make it work. He told me last December that he wasnt communticating with her anymore, they were just coworkers. It was very hard and there have been lots of fights and arguments. Then two months ago she contacted me on facebook and told me they were still witnessing each other and screenshotted tons of text messages. He told her he loved her, and was still sleeping with her the entire time. I am very hurt and dont know if i can trust him again. He has lied to me this entire time. He begged me for another chance and told me I am the one he wants to be with. Im not coaxed that hes not still talking to her. She no longer works with him. I dont know what to do or believe anymore.

    I was moving my gf’s phone off the bed the other night when I noticed a reply to a Craigslist ad she posted for Feb and I’m pretty tore up I don’t know what I should do next monthwould be four years and we live together how do I confront her

    My fiance and i have been together for about almost three years. We were suppose to get married in December. Our relationship for about a year was pretty unhealty. i never dreamed to leave and neither did she. I never treated her right and disrespected her on uncountable occasions and never would listen to her. The night of my bday i had shoved her and humilated her infront of all of our friends. A few days later she said she couldnt take it anymore and left. There was alot of grey area. Well while she was gone she ended up meeting someone. I found the evidence a few weeks after my bday. We continued to stay separated but she said she desired to work it out and go to counseling. I recently found out durning the time we were still apart but after i found out she cheated on me, she sent the doll flowers. She is living back home now and we are still going to counseling. She said she has completley cut it off with the doll but i just dont know and im very hurt

    My gf cheated on me at a work party utterly tipsy with a coworker and I don’t know what to do

    i had a flawless relationship of three & half years and then she went to calcutta for her studies and i was all alone i felt like i was left out and after few months she commenced to overlook me she blocked me in instagram, whatsapp and even put my phone no in reject list then all of unexpected a dude txted me telling stop calling his gf i was mad but the fact was that man was from the same college where my gf was studying iam feeling so down right now and i dont know what to do.

    ok here goes i never done this but any help would be appreciated. In Oct of two thousand fourteen my wifey passed away at forty two all of a sudden devastated me, for about six months i was very alone so went on dating sites and found a woman i began dating. Way to soon i know now. well to make a long story brief after a few months i moved her in with me and things i thought where going ok, by the way by me moving her in it helped her one hundred times financially and i pay all the bills and ask her for no financial support at all. So i find out in August after we had a argument a crimson flag went off to check dating sites and wham there she was on the one we met on, Since February meeting guys behind my back at least six to Ten. and oh yea she was married three times before and never ever talks about her past and gets mad when i ask her to. so i cleared my head and the next day confronted her about it and she said it was my fault i was pushing her away by not getting over my wifey. well then i found her on at least eight more sites and her texts messages where very detailed and she admitted to meeting guys for attention i wasn’t providing her blah blah blah. So since then i put my life on hold and have done nothing but work on this relationship attempting to stir forward and yes i put ninety nine percent of my baggage down about my wifey because i know how i was and it was very hard to let go. After being Married twenty four years in a 100% trustful marriage. I linked out FB accounts and said no more hiding her phone and no secretes. Well I’m having a indeed hard time trusting her again even however she says she’s not doing anything. I’m not sure but i think she may be a serial cheater from everything i read. She say she can just shut her mind off and not think of anything like she has no guilt and can act like everything is superb. when we talk she always says I’m rehashing what happened. WONDER WHY!! I lost twenty five Lbs in three weeks over this krap and I’m sick of being sick over it. its been over two months now and I’m still attempting but i got this bad feeling its just a matter of time before she does it again. there is a lot more i could tell you but i wont bore you. any thoughts or advice would be superb. Thanks.

    I’ve been with my beau for two years now, he’s done various things in the past year (messaging ladies/saving there numbers/social media names to add later on etc) in August he went on holiday with his dad his cousin and there two friends for five days, I thought everything was flawless before he left, During the holiday he added a lady from his cousins phone and they obviously began to talk (this was on an app he had swore he never had) and obviously just downloaded it while he was on holiday… I was fully oblivious of this until 1-2 weeks after his come back, we was driving in his car and he’s music was playing – he got a FaceTime call from a number saved under ‘A’ and I obviously questioned him he said he didn’t know so I accepted the call and to my surprise was a youthfull chick in her brassiere as soon as she spotted me she disconnected the phone. I attempted to ring but there was no response so I text her from his phone telling who is this, she claimed it was the wrong person.. I was going crazy at my beau attempting to get the truth from him we eventually got to his friends house I attempted calling her again the female refused to speak to me and my bf was on the phone to her screaming telling ‘who the F are you how dare you lie about me’ ‘I don’t know you, I have a gf’ I was blubbering so much I had to walk away for a breath – but when I walked away he begged her not to tell me I woke up to a message from her the next morning with her telling me everything he had said he told her he wished ‘a serious relationship’ and asked for nude photos it honestly crushed me- he had told her she wasn’t permitted to save any of his messages she had mentioned to me she found this suspicious- she literally told me all the things he was telling to her and while he was on holiday he was being so nice to me. Earlier in the day before I had found out he had never been more horrible to me, he made me get in his car was driving ridiculously swift telling me my mother and father think I’m a liability and they hate me and I also suffer with depression and had attempted once before to commit suicide- he even said that they wouldn’t have cared if I did and that no one would care apart from him, as we came to a set of ref lights I attempted to get out the car and he grabbed me by my neck, the way he looked at me was not the person I fell in love with, he was so different this day and later in the day is when the female face timed him while we was in the car together, She told me the next day that that day he was begging to meet her but she was busy. This is obviously why he was so evil to me. I don’t know what to do because I haven’t loved anyone more than him – it’s now November and last month I found him watching explosions of porn online and texting one of those lovemaking people things, We’ve argued so much since and I think it’s the underlying issue that how much agony he caused me I just can’t forgive him I would never be unloyal to who I have made a commitment too- I’ve attempted to leave him fairly a few times since and he blackmails me by telling degrading things about my assets and that no one would want me, he also says so much that he will ‘bait’ me and post pictures of me online, he’s told me to die after attempting to commit suicide and told me no one would care if I did, he is always telling things about my figure which I now downright hate, I’m so stuck and I don’t know what to do he was everything I would’ve ever asked for in the very first year of our relationship, I don’t even know who he is anymore – he says if he can’t have me no one can, He’s stopped me from witnessing all of my friends but one and even then I’m not permitted to go out she will have to come to my house, during arguments if I attempt to defend myself to hurt me he tells me he’s cheated on me with nine women all are ‘so much better’ than me, he says I’m a ‘bed warmer’ and asks me ‘how his other ladies taste’ he does whatever he likes when he likes and I feel he just sees me as his possession now. A number of times when I have attempted to leave him he tells me he’s going to kill himself he has even cut my name and lots of other things into his gams and sent pictures to me, he’s text his mum telling ‘you won’t see me again and to thank my gf’ I honestly don’t know what to do I haven’t told anyone. I am so stuck and so lost

    It sounds like you are in a physically and emotionally abusive relationship. All of the manipulation and cheating is a reflection on his character. You may need help leaving him. Do you have someone you can trust and tell about what is happening? We are here for you 24/7 to help you work through a plan of escape and to provide resources. Click the “talk now” button to embark the conversation with a HopeCoach.

    My dame cheat on me, few days ago she said she going back to her sister house but turns fthat she going to meet with the man she cheat with, fortunately Her phone left in my car and I drove away and there I spotted her talk and i read everything, that how i know she cheating on me. Then I just play her game, but the agony is there, what should I do?

    It is indeed excellent that the two of you are talking about it. Good open truthful communication is a indeed significant part of a healthy relationship. We have a free eBook on cheating that the both of you could read through together. It talks about building trust and about what causes cheating and more. Here is the link – http://info.thehopeline.com/relationshipscheating-ebook

    Colton, It’s significant that you talk to someone about how you are feeling. You deserved better and we care. Please talk online with one of our HopeCoaches that will listen and help you through this at http://www.thehopeline.com/gethelp.

    hi guys i know most of u wont be interested in my story. But i liked a dame we began to talk and after a few weeks she told she was divorced. I was heart cracked but i tho’ hey i liked her when i did know this how can i say no to her when i got to know her now. After this i commenced to love her more then before. I dreamed to make up for other things that happened to her in past. Surely i made mistakes but i did what i could for her. She was bipolar when we were in 3rd year of med school. That was hardest time for us. All of unexpected some days she used to asked me to beg she didn’t got pregnant. And i used to laugh like wtfff? How i didnt even touch u. Years went by and we went back to our countries for house job in hospitals. And i was mad and sad about that, I began to be upset and we had arguments and those argument led to fight. We went back and forward. One she will b all fine next day a stranger. Then after duo months she said she need time to think anyways we stopped talking. I got to know from my friends thats she is talking to other people but when i used to ask her she used to say im not and im studying for exams. Anyways i love her so much that i never said a word about it. I loved her so much that i got to know that she cheated on me many times thats y she used to say Beg IM NOT PREGNANT. Today i got to know this its horrible for me. I gave everything to that dame just cos hse was violated she said she is glad that she got divorced so she found me and i made her love life again. now i know she is there living blessed life and me here thinking weeping and imagining her.

    Hey my gf cheated on me because I was always accusing her of so she had never done anything t till now I feel like it was my fault for pushing her that far but I also feel hurt wat should I do

    I think my ex cheated on me while we were dating. We broke up back in July but we were still living together until the end of October when we both moved out into different places. Via those months we would sleep together on and off and we joked around telling that we became friends with benefits. After the budge out, I attempted to stay in contact because he says that we would get back together in time. We broke up because we were fighting a lot and we agreed that we both needed space to grow. I spotted him a duo of times and he’d flirt with me and made it seem like he wished me. I didn’t want to rush him but I dreamed him back. But I determined I’d wait til he was ready to get back together. And now just recently I found out he’s been eyeing someone for awhile. He got my hopes up, broke my heart and didn’t even care. He displayed no sympathy, lied even after I caught them out together. How do I stir on? This is my very first break up and I’ve dated him for six and half years, we even talked about marriage. I’m going crazy…. plz help….

    Contemplation is the cousin of an act

    i witnessed my Girlfriends picture on another guys IG ans she told me she is modeling footwear for the boy, The boy also posted a picture with my female friend on her birth day, eve posted another picture of the fellow and my girlfirnd on fresh year. Still my damsel friend is telling me that she is not the person posting the picture, she said the fellow is crushing on her. What should i do ??

    My gf who was one year junior than me was with me in relationship a few years ago… Then she commenced to get affairs with some other man who is one of my friend. I don’t have anything to do but I still plead for her and I will proceed to beg for her until I get her back….

    Lately my gf cheated on me after one year relationship , I found out she was with her ex bf for four years while being with me . She was going out late night lately telling that going to meet her relative and I followed her car then it was her ex bf house . I have called him and tell him the situation then both of us confronted infront, then she says she wants her ex BF . After few days she came back to me telling that it was her mistake and ask for forgiveness I was angry at very first and scolded her for doing bad to me then I accept her after few weeks she is still blaming me telling that it’s not more the same and I am treating her bad but to be fair I am attempting my best and she says that she starts to hate me . And I found out yesterday she is using another phone and was online till morning . To be fair I don’t know what to do …

    The boy I’ve been dating for two years have told me that he has feelings for another woman. But he doesn’t love her as much as he loves me (He said this in his own words). I’m not sure what to do. I am in so much agony.. He has cheated on me before but that was over a year ago and he attempted his very best to regain my trust and when I almost trusted him fully he goes to tell me this.. I confronted him about her and he didn’t hesitate to admit his wrong doing. I don’t know anymore. Ugh.

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    Your BF/GF is Cheating on You…Now What?

    If you have ever uncovered the painful truth that the person you feel you love is cheating on you, you very likely asked yourself:What am I supposed to do now? What should my response be to this betrayal? There is no doubt you have felt a broad range of confusing emotions. As you can imagine, all the feelings you have had make it very difficult to quickly make any kind of wise decision on what to do next.

    It’s significant to understand there are different kinds of behavior people call cheating, some of which might not be cheating at all.

    What Is Cheating?

    For example, it’s significant to understand there are different kinds of behavior people call cheating, some of which are not cheating at all. If someone asks you out just once, and then soon after asks someone else out, that’s not cheating. That’s simply dating around. Believe me, there’s nothing wrong with dating around. On the other palm, if you have been dating that person for a while and you both commit to dating exclusively, and that person dates someone else behind your back, that’s cheating. Obviously, if someone says Will you be my fiance?, and you accept, and then they date behind your back, that’s cheating. If the person you are dating for some time has hookup, or inappropriate sexual behavior with another person, that’s cheating.

    So what should you do when you know your bf/gf is cheating on you?

    Don’t let the lies and deceit of your bf/gf haul you down into the gutter with them.

    Now Take These Three Steps To Protect Yourself:

    1. The very first thing you need to do is wait. Don’t do anything. Let your feelings silent down. Regardless of what you have discovered, there’s no need to go around trashing the person who’s cheated on you, or even the one he/she did it with. Stay above the betrayal. Don’t let the lies and deceit of your bf/gf haul you down into the gutter with them. Keep your deep sense of private dignity and healthy self-worth. You only make matters worse by acting out of anger and confusion. The entire world doesn’t need to know you have been violated.
    2. Surround yourself with good friends and wise counselors who can help you sort through your emotions and detect what has actually taken place. Get your friends and others you trust to calmly uncover what has been happening behind your back. Usually your friends are the very first to know. These people are priceless to you because you can talk through your emotions with them. Left to yourself you will only get caught in a circle of confusion, hurt, and resentment.
    3. Confront your bf/gf in private. Confrontation is never effortless, but you will never get to the bottom of what has happened or begin healing until you have talked with your cheating bf/gf. It’s very significant to have this confrontation face-to-face if possible. Bod language (facial expressions, etc.) will tell you a lot. Make sure you have the facts before the confrontation. If you attempt to confront without evidence, you will most likely be lied to or stir up deep resentment in the person you are accusing.Sometimes the person being confronted will attempt to blame you for the very thing he/she has done. This is the kind of practice Kristy had:I just broke up with my beau of two years. It was a break-up/makeup relationship. He would do something wrong, like cheat, and somehow blame it on me; make me feel like it was my fault that he cheated, that somehow I drove him to it. Then he’d break up with me, and a few days later, we’d get back together.

    Sometimes you feel like causing a big scene to bring shame to the other person, and you end up just looking like a idiot.

    While confronting, deal with the source of the problem, your bf/gf, and don’t concentrate on the person they’ve cheated with. Sometimes you feel like bringing shame to the other person, and you end up just looking like a loser. Attempt to detect if your cheating bf/gf is truly repentant for what he/she has done. Some people are just sorry because they got caught. It will take time for you to know whether or not your bf/gf is truly sorry for their betrayal of you. Some people when confronted become defensive, belligerent, and angry. That is a good sign they have no intention of ever getting back with you again. See their reaction for what it is. Sometimes it’s just better to walk away and stay away.

    Determining whether or not you are going to attempt and salvage the relationship could be one of the most significant decisions you will ever make.

  • Consider a time-out from your relationship. Determining whether or not you are going to attempt and salvage the relationship could be one of the most significant decisions you will ever make. A time-out will give you a chance to get wise counsel from other people and determine whether or not the relationship is worth saving. Don’t make the mistake of KT: My ex bf was a wank and treated me so badly. He’d call me names and he’d cheat on me and give me the guilt excursion telling I will never find anyone like him or even as good as him cause he is that unique. All my friends told me to leave himthat my friends are all that I need to be glad, and a good dude will come along when he comes along. But I didn’t listen to my friends, even however they have given me very good advice for two years now. I just didn’t listen cause my ex bf sort of brain washed me in a way. Now that I understand and accept it, I am doing so much better.
  • It will take time for the relationship to heal, if ever. Trust has been shattered and recovering trust takes a long time.

    If you determine the relationship is salvageable, your cheating bf/gf will have to understand it will take time for the relationship to heal, if ever. Trust has been shattered and recovering trust takes a long time. In the end, if you determine the relationship cannot be healed or mended, take some off from dating to find yourself and permit yourself to become stronger. Some relationships cannot be saved no matter what you do. So don’t bring unnecessary drama and unnecessary hurt into your life by not letting go.

    Steven said something incredible when he commented:Everybody has free will and [my gf] had the will to cheat as she pleases and I can’t switch that. But I also have free will. The free will to not give her power over me and to stir on to lead a productive life. The people who loved me and the ones I loved were counting on me. I dropped my pride and cried out for help. Know your own self-worth and sob out for the help you need. You are worth it!

    Check out my other blogs that might help you if you’ve just been cheated on:

    when a stud love his phone ,whenever a text comes in he hides while he is textin so I cant see..

    and its not like I can read it because he always delete his text..it kills me when he does these things

    I have a bought that my bf cheat on my back side . N when ever m attempting to talk about this he commence howling in front of me n said no m not cheating on you m earnestly love u n all that . Plz tell me what to do . M emotionally confused . There is a war inbetween my heart n my brain .

    Dating someone for about two months and determined to budge in with her since her and i BOTH thought things were going so well. Had a excursion planned to a convention before I began dating her so i could truly back out of it. Found out that while i was going t be on this excursion, she was going to cheat with me with some other dude. Confronted her about it and I forgave her. Month or two goes by, spotted that she was sending pics to some random boy, and then while I had some family issues happening at the moment and I was off attempting to mend them, she dreamed to visit the same man from before to cheat on me. I love this lady, she keeps planning our future together, telling what we should do, what we will do in the future, but three times, and I still forgave her…will she truly do it again?

    Got a msg from a random dame and fellow telling my gf cheated idk what to do I asked her about it but she said it wasn’t true..they where snapchats inbetween them

    my bf of nine years acts like he is single on Facebook and will ask anybody out on it, even his sister trys to get him with her friends. i can’t take it no more! when I told him I know what he’s up to, he says to stay out of his business :(. we met in middle school and I never been with anyone else. I love him so much!! this makes me not want to live anymore…

    Yea I bet his friends list private is Two! Same boat just opposite Honestly im sure your a beautiful female that a man will swoop you up in seconds! Hol ya head up baby dame!

    I am 37, my gf is 25.. I recently had suspicions that my gf cheated on me with one of her work dude friends.. I confronted him.. He came clean and told me it happened a duo times.. I confronted my gf about it about two weeks ago, we talked for hours about it.. I was crushed!! I haven’t been no angel my entire life but she is one woman that ive been truly faithful to.. I can’t stop thinking about this everyday.. Knowing that she did this to me.. I want to budge past this, I told her that I want this relationship.. she seems genuinely upset about this and wants to stir on with our relationship. I just don’t know how to budge on from this.. Any and all advice would help!!

    We are hurting with you. Stay strong. You deserve so much better! Talk with us online anytime, we are here for you! http://www.thehopeline.com/GetHelp/

    My gf and I have been together for eight months now. She admitted to telling that she loved her ex during our fourth month and then she told another ex she had feelings for him during our seventh. Idk what to do Bc I love her so much. Please help

    Me n my bf almost three yrs in love .but now he telling that he don’t need me anymore.i think he have another paramour..wht should I do.i don’t know..I love him alot .now adays i sobbing n mad .should I make fresh bf to make him jealous?plz help me.😢

    Our talk system can translate many languages. Please talk with a HopeCoach about what is going on with you ex. We are here to listen and help. http://www.thehopeline.com/gethelp.

    its either u lve her or u leave her alone shame in this one

    Leave her. There is nothing much to be said here. If she had respect for you and your common well-doings, then the 2nd man wouldn’t even exist. Face the truth that there are endless opportunities out there to meet your true love.

    I have been dating this damsel and I went to see family for a week and she texts me that she was unfaithful in our relationship and that she kissed another dude. I was enraged but I didn’t let her she it. I love her so much and I would do anything to make it work inbetween us. She says she is truly sorry and that she needs time to gather herself, I am worried so bad. She said that wile she gathers herself we aren’t dating and that she wants me to be there for her when she is ready, but I might just be assuming the worst but I think this entire “gathering myself” thing is her attempting to get with the other fellow, because we aren’t dating and it won’t be cheating and she wants to come back to me when it doesn’t work out. I love her so much and I would do anything for her. I need her in my life and I need help. What should I do?

    I love how the author’s very first advice is not to tell anyone. Keeping your playmate’s infidelity secret only helps them maintain a veneer of normality and hurts you instead. What garbage.

    I am sorry you misunderstood Dawson’s advice. Part one is about protecting your own self-worth and Dawson suggests finding people you can trust to talk to about what happened, “Surround yourself with good friends and wise counselors who can help you sort through your emotions and detect what has actually taken place.” HopeCoaches are available on talk 24/7.

    My gf of two years cheated on me with my friend for a year. She can’t face me to talk about why she did it

    Just found out my gf is cheating things have been difficult for a while and she left her facebook on and I found messages she gave me her password for her facebook and email address just a duo on months ago when she had a stroke and i nursed her back to health I got into serious finical difficulty since I had a lot of time off work and walking a lean line now with my bosses. She has bipolar and it could be down to that but seen she’s on pof and free dating as well as sleeping with her ex. I just don’t know what to do due to her instability she was manhandled by her ex hubby as was her two children who look up to me as a father. We’ve been together for almost three years and have been engaged we announced it when she had the stroke but she recently called it off telling she’s scarred about getting tied down again. Any ideas about what to do as I don’t want to lose her and with her bipolar it may tranquil down again and lodge but things are difficult at the moment.

    I am so sorry you are going through this. You sound like a truly stable and loyal person. This is a lot for one person to treat. You can talk with us anytime 24/7 and we can help you sort through some solutions. We are here for you – http://www.thehopeline.com/gethelp/

    My fiance cheated on me last summer. We have been together for ten years, engaged for Four. We have two children together, and his two children from a previous marriage live with us also. He confessed that he cheated on me and that the damsel was pregnant. I told him I was willing to work on our relationship and forgive him. He told me he had feelings for her, and was not in love with me anymore. She ended up having a miscarriage a few months later, and he assured me that they were just gonna be friends, they also worked together. I was not ok with that and just had to deal with it as I was willing to do anything to make it work. He told me last December that he wasnt communticating with her anymore, they were just coworkers. It was very hard and there have been lots of fights and arguments. Then two months ago she contacted me on facebook and told me they were still observing each other and screenshotted tons of text messages. He told her he loved her, and was still sleeping with her the entire time. I am very hurt and dont know if i can trust him again. He has lied to me this entire time. He begged me for another chance and told me I am the one he wants to be with. Im not coaxed that hes not still talking to her. She no longer works with him. I dont know what to do or believe anymore.

    I was moving my gf’s phone off the bed the other night when I noticed a reply to a Craigslist ad she posted for Feb and I’m pretty tore up I don’t know what I should do next monthwould be four years and we live together how do I confront her

    My fiance and i have been together for about almost three years. We were suppose to get married in December. Our relationship for about a year was pretty unhealty. i never wished to leave and neither did she. I never treated her right and disrespected her on uncountable occasions and never would listen to her. The night of my bday i had shoved her and humilated her infront of all of our friends. A few days later she said she couldnt take it anymore and left. There was alot of grey area. Well while she was gone she ended up meeting someone. I found the evidence a few weeks after my bday. We continued to stay separated but she said she wished to work it out and go to counseling. I recently found out durning the time we were still apart but after i found out she cheated on me, she sent the female flowers. She is living back home now and we are still going to counseling. She said she has completley cut it off with the dame but i just dont know and im very hurt

    My gf cheated on me at a work party enormously tipsy with a coworker and I don’t know what to do

    i had a ideal relationship of three & half years and then she went to calcutta for her studies and i was all alone i felt like i was left out and after few months she embarked to disregard me she blocked me in instagram, whatsapp and even put my phone no in reject list then all of unexpected a man txted me telling stop calling his gf i was mad but the fact was that fellow was from the same college where my gf was studying iam feeling so down right now and i dont know what to do.

    ok here goes i never done this but any help would be appreciated. In Oct of two thousand fourteen my wifey passed away at forty two all of a sudden devastated me, for about six months i was very alone so went on dating sites and found a lady i commenced dating. Way to soon i know now. well to make a long story brief after a few months i moved her in with me and things i thought where going ok, by the way by me moving her in it helped her one hundred times financially and i pay all the bills and ask her for no financial support at all. So i find out in August after we had a argument a crimson flag went off to check dating sites and wham there she was on the one we met on, Since February meeting guys behind my back at least six to Ten. and oh yea she was married three times before and never ever talks about her past and gets mad when i ask her to. so i cleared my head and the next day confronted her about it and she said it was my fault i was pushing her away by not getting over my wifey. well then i found her on at least eight more sites and her texts messages where very detailed and she admitted to meeting guys for attention i wasn’t providing her blah blah blah. So since then i put my life on hold and have done nothing but work on this relationship attempting to budge forward and yes i put ninety nine percent of my baggage down about my wifey because i know how i was and it was very hard to let go. After being Married twenty four years in a 100% trustful marriage. I linked out FB accounts and said no more hiding her phone and no secretes. Well I’m having a indeed hard time trusting her again even tho’ she says she’s not doing anything. I’m not sure but i think she may be a serial cheater from everything i read. She say she can just shut her mind off and not think of anything like she has no guilt and can act like everything is superb. when we talk she always says I’m rehashing what happened. WONDER WHY!! I lost twenty five Lbs in three weeks over this krap and I’m sick of being sick over it. its been over two months now and I’m still attempting but i got this bad feeling its just a matter of time before she does it again. there is a lot more i could tell you but i wont bore you. any thoughts or advice would be superb. Thanks.

    I’ve been with my bf for two years now, he’s done various things in the past year (messaging ladies/saving there numbers/social media names to add later on etc) in August he went on holiday with his dad his cousin and there two friends for five days, I thought everything was flawless before he left, During the holiday he added a female from his cousins phone and they obviously began to talk (this was on an app he had swore he never had) and obviously just downloaded it while he was on holiday… I was totally oblivious of this until 1-2 weeks after his comeback, we was driving in his car and he’s music was playing – he got a FaceTime call from a number saved under ‘A’ and I obviously questioned him he said he didn’t know so I accepted the call and to my surprise was a youthful female in her hooter-sling as soon as she spotted me she disconnected the phone. I attempted to ring but there was no response so I text her from his phone telling who is this, she claimed it was the wrong person.. I was going crazy at my beau attempting to get the truth from him we eventually got to his friends house I attempted calling her again the female refused to speak to me and my bf was on the phone to her screaming telling ‘who the F are you how dare you lie about me’ ‘I don’t know you, I have a gf’ I was sobbing so much I had to walk away for a breath – but when I walked away he begged her not to tell me I woke up to a message from her the next morning with her telling me everything he had said he told her he desired ‘a serious relationship’ and asked for nude photos it honestly crushed me- he had told her she wasn’t permitted to save any of his messages she had mentioned to me she found this suspicious- she literally told me all the things he was telling to her and while he was on holiday he was being so nice to me. Earlier in the day before I had found out he had never been more horrible to me, he made me get in his car was driving ridiculously quick telling me my mother and father think I’m a liability and they hate me and I also suffer with depression and had attempted once before to commit suicide- he even said that they wouldn’t have cared if I did and that no one would care apart from him, as we came to a set of ref lights I attempted to get out the car and he grabbed me by my neck, the way he looked at me was not the person I fell in love with, he was so different this day and later in the day is when the female face timed him while we was in the car together, She told me the next day that that day he was begging to meet her but she was busy. This is obviously why he was so evil to me. I don’t know what to do because I haven’t loved anyone more than him – it’s now November and last month I found him watching explosions of porn online and texting one of those lovemaking people things, We’ve argued so much since and I think it’s the underlying issue that how much agony he caused me I just can’t forgive him I would never be unloyal to who I have made a commitment too- I’ve attempted to leave him fairly a few times since and he blackmails me by telling degrading things about my figure and that no one would want me, he also says so much that he will ‘bait’ me and post pictures of me online, he’s told me to die after attempting to commit suicide and told me no one would care if I did, he is always telling things about my assets which I now totally hate, I’m so stuck and I don’t know what to do he was everything I would’ve ever asked for in the very first year of our relationship, I don’t even know who he is anymore – he says if he can’t have me no one can, He’s stopped me from witnessing all of my friends but one and even then I’m not permitted to go out she will have to come to my house, during arguments if I attempt to defend myself to hurt me he tells me he’s cheated on me with nine damsels all are ‘so much better’ than me, he says I’m a ‘bed warmer’ and asks me ‘how his other women taste’ he does whatever he likes when he likes and I feel he just sees me as his possession now. A number of times when I have attempted to leave him he tells me he’s going to kill himself he has even cut my name and lots of other things into his gams and sent pictures to me, he’s text his mum telling ‘you won’t see me again and to thank my gf’ I honestly don’t know what to do I haven’t told anyone. I am so stuck and so lost

    It sounds like you are in a physically and emotionally abusive relationship. All of the manipulation and cheating is a reflection on his character. You may need help leaving him. Do you have someone you can trust and tell about what is happening? We are here for you 24/7 to help you work through a plan of escape and to provide resources. Click the “talk now” button to embark the conversation with a HopeCoach.

    My lady cheat on me, few days ago she said she going back to her sister house but turns fthat she going to meet with the stud she cheat with, fortunately Her phone left in my car and I drove away and there I eyed her talk and i read everything, that how i know she cheating on me. Then I just play her game, but the agony is there, what should I do?

    It is truly good that the two of you are talking about it. Good open truthful communication is a truly significant part of a healthy relationship. We have a free eBook on cheating that the both of you could read through together. It talks about building trust and about what causes cheating and more. Here is the link – http://info.thehopeline.com/relationshipscheating-ebook

    Colton, It’s significant that you talk to someone about how you are feeling. You deserved better and we care. Please talk online with one of our HopeCoaches that will listen and help you through this at http://www.thehopeline.com/gethelp.

    hi guys i know most of u wont be interested in my story. But i liked a chick we began to talk and after a few weeks she told she was divorced. I was heart cracked but i tho’ hey i liked her when i did know this how can i say no to her when i got to know her now. After this i embarked to love her more then before. I dreamed to make up for other things that happened to her in past. Surely i made mistakes but i did what i could for her. She was bipolar when we were in 3rd year of med school. That was hardest time for us. All of unexpected some days she used to asked me to plead she didn’t got pregnant. And i used to laugh like wtfff? How i didnt even touch u. Years went by and we went back to our countries for house job in hospitals. And i was mad and sad about that, I embarked to be upset and we had arguments and those argument led to fight. We went back and forward. One she will b all fine next day a stranger. Then after duo months she said she need time to think anyways we stopped talking. I got to know from my friends thats she is talking to other people but when i used to ask her she used to say im not and im studying for exams. Anyways i love her so much that i never said a word about it. I loved her so much that i got to know that she cheated on me many times thats y she used to say Plead IM NOT PREGNANT. Today i got to know this its horrible for me. I gave everything to that dame just cos hse was violated she said she is blessed that she got divorced so she found me and i made her love life again. now i know she is there living blessed life and me here thinking weeping and imagining her.

    Hey my gf cheated on me because I was always accusing her of so she had never done anything t till now I feel like it was my fault for pushing her that far but I also feel hurt wat should I do

    I think my ex cheated on me while we were dating. We broke up back in July but we were still living together until the end of October when we both moved out into different places. Across those months we would sleep together on and off and we joked around telling that we became friends with benefits. After the budge out, I attempted to stay in contact because he says that we would get back together in time. We broke up because we were fighting a lot and we agreed that we both needed space to grow. I eyed him a duo of times and he’d flirt with me and made it seem like he desired me. I didn’t want to rush him but I dreamed him back. But I determined I’d wait til he was ready to get back together. And now just recently I found out he’s been eyeing someone for awhile. He got my hopes up, broke my heart and didn’t even care. He demonstrated no sympathy, lied even after I caught them out together. How do I budge on? This is my very first break up and I’ve dated him for six and half years, we even talked about marriage. I’m going crazy…. plz help….

    Contemplation is the cousin of an act

    i spotted my Girlfriends picture on another guys IG ans she told me she is modeling footwear for the boy, The fellow also posted a picture with my female friend on her birth day, eve posted another picture of the stud and my girlfirnd on fresh year. Still my dame friend is telling me that she is not the person posting the picture, she said the fellow is crushing on her. What should i do ??

    My gf who was one year junior than me was with me in relationship a few years ago… Then she commenced to get affairs with some other man who is one of my friend. I don’t have anything to do but I still plead for her and I will proceed to plead for her until I get her back….

    Lately my gf cheated on me after one year relationship , I found out she was with her ex bf for four years while being with me . She was going out late night lately telling that going to meet her relative and I followed her car then it was her ex bf house . I have called him and tell him the situation then both of us confronted infront, then she says she wants her ex BF . After few days she came back to me telling that it was her mistake and ask for forgiveness I was angry at very first and scolded her for doing bad to me then I accept her after few weeks she is still blaming me telling that it’s not more the same and I am treating her bad but to be fair I am attempting my best and she says that she starts to hate me . And I found out yesterday she is using another phone and was online till morning . To be fair I don’t know what to do …

    The boy I’ve been dating for two years have told me that he has feelings for another woman. But he doesn’t love her as much as he loves me (He said this in his own words). I’m not sure what to do. I am in so much anguish.. He has cheated on me before but that was over a year ago and he attempted his very best to regain my trust and when I almost trusted him fully he goes to tell me this.. I confronted him about her and he didn’t hesitate to admit his wrong doing. I don’t know anymore. Ugh.

    Your BF

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    Your BF/GF is Cheating on You…Now What?

    If you have ever uncovered the painful truth that the person you feel you love is cheating on you, you most likely asked yourself:What am I supposed to do now? What should my response be to this betrayal? There is no doubt you have felt a broad range of confusing emotions. As you can imagine, all the feelings you have had make it very difficult to quickly make any kind of wise decision on what to do next.

    It’s significant to understand there are different kinds of behavior people call cheating, some of which might not be cheating at all.

    What Is Cheating?

    For example, it’s significant to understand there are different kinds of behavior people call cheating, some of which are not cheating at all. If someone asks you out just once, and then soon after asks someone else out, that’s not cheating. That’s simply dating around. Believe me, there’s nothing wrong with dating around. On the other mitt, if you have been dating that person for a while and you both commit to dating exclusively, and that person dates someone else behind your back, that’s cheating. Obviously, if someone says Will you be my fiance?, and you accept, and then they date behind your back, that’s cheating. If the person you are dating for some time has hook-up, or inappropriate sexual behavior with another person, that’s cheating.

    So what should you do when you know your bf/gf is cheating on you?

    Don’t let the lies and deceit of your bf/gf haul you down into the gutter with them.

    Now Take These Three Steps To Protect Yourself:

    1. The very first thing you need to do is wait. Don’t do anything. Let your feelings tranquil down. Regardless of what you have discovered, there’s no need to go around trashing the person who’s cheated on you, or even the one he/she did it with. Stay above the betrayal. Don’t let the lies and deceit of your bf/gf haul you down into the gutter with them. Keep your deep sense of private dignity and healthy self-worth. You only make matters worse by acting out of anger and confusion. The entire world doesn’t need to know you have been violated.
    2. Surround yourself with good friends and wise counselors who can help you sort through your emotions and detect what has actually taken place. Get your friends and others you trust to calmly uncover what has been happening behind your back. Usually your friends are the very first to know. These people are priceless to you because you can talk through your emotions with them. Left to yourself you will only get caught in a circle of confusion, hurt, and resentment.
    3. Confront your bf/gf in private. Confrontation is never effortless, but you will never get to the bottom of what has happened or begin healing until you have talked with your cheating bf/gf. It’s very significant to have this confrontation face-to-face if possible. Assets language (facial expressions, etc.) will tell you a lot. Make sure you have the facts before the confrontation. If you attempt to confront without evidence, you will most likely be lied to or stir up deep resentment in the person you are accusing.Sometimes the person being confronted will attempt to blame you for the very thing he/she has done. This is the kind of practice Kristy had:I just broke up with my bf of two years. It was a break-up/makeup relationship. He would do something wrong, like cheat, and somehow blame it on me; make me feel like it was my fault that he cheated, that somehow I drove him to it. Then he’d break up with me, and a few days later, we’d get back together.

    Sometimes you feel like causing a big scene to bring shame to the other person, and you end up just looking like a loser.

    While confronting, deal with the source of the problem, your bf/gf, and don’t concentrate on the person they’ve cheated with. Sometimes you feel like bringing shame to the other person, and you end up just looking like a loser. Attempt to detect if your cheating bf/gf is truly repentant for what he/she has done. Some people are just sorry because they got caught. It will take time for you to know whether or not your bf/gf is truly sorry for their betrayal of you. Some people when confronted become defensive, belligerent, and angry. That is a good sign they have no intention of ever getting back with you again. See their reaction for what it is. Sometimes it’s just better to walk away and stay away.

    Determining whether or not you are going to attempt and salvage the relationship could be one of the most significant decisions you will ever make.

  • Consider a time-out from your relationship. Determining whether or not you are going to attempt and salvage the relationship could be one of the most significant decisions you will ever make. A time-out will give you a chance to get wise counsel from other people and determine whether or not the relationship is worth saving. Don’t make the mistake of KT: My ex bf was a wank and treated me so badly. He’d call me names and he’d cheat on me and give me the guilt journey telling I will never find anyone like him or even as good as him cause he is that unique. All my friends told me to leave himthat my friends are all that I need to be glad, and a good boy will come along when he comes along. But I didn’t listen to my friends, even however they have given me very good advice for two years now. I just didn’t listen cause my ex bf sort of brain washed me in a way. Now that I understand and accept it, I am doing so much better.
  • It will take time for the relationship to heal, if ever. Trust has been shattered and recovering trust takes a long time.

    If you determine the relationship is salvageable, your cheating bf/gf will have to understand it will take time for the relationship to heal, if ever. Trust has been shattered and recovering trust takes a long time. In the end, if you determine the relationship cannot be healed or mended, take some off from dating to find yourself and permit yourself to become stronger. Some relationships cannot be saved no matter what you do. So don’t bring unnecessary drama and unnecessary hurt into your life by not letting go.

    Steven said something incredible when he commented:Everybody has free will and [my gf] had the will to cheat as she pleases and I can’t switch that. But I also have free will. The free will to not give her power over me and to stir on to lead a productive life. The people who loved me and the ones I loved were counting on me. I dropped my pride and cried out for help. Know your own self-worth and sob out for the help you need. You are worth it!

    Check out my other blogs that might help you if you’ve just been cheated on:

    when a man love his phone ,whenever a text comes in he hides while he is textin so I cant see..

    and its not like I can read it because he always delete his text..it kills me when he does these things

    I have a bought that my bf cheat on my back side . N when ever m attempting to talk about this he begin howling in front of me n said no m not cheating on you m gravely love u n all that . Plz tell me what to do . M emotionally confused . There is a war inbetween my heart n my brain .

    Dating someone for about two months and determined to stir in with her since her and i BOTH thought things were going so well. Had a excursion planned to a convention before I commenced dating her so i could indeed back out of it. Found out that while i was going t be on this tour, she was going to cheat with me with some other fellow. Confronted her about it and I forgave her. Month or two goes by, witnessed that she was sending pics to some random dude, and then while I had some family issues happening at the moment and I was off attempting to mend them, she dreamed to visit the same man from before to cheat on me. I love this lady, she keeps planning our future together, telling what we should do, what we will do in the future, but three times, and I still forgave her…will she truly do it again?

    Got a msg from a random lady and boy telling my gf cheated idk what to do I asked her about it but she said it wasn’t true..they where snapchats inbetween them

    my bf of nine years acts like he is single on Facebook and will ask anybody out on it, even his sister trys to get him with her friends. i can’t take it no more! when I told him I know what he’s up to, he says to stay out of his business :(. we met in middle school and I never been with anyone else. I love him so much!! this makes me not want to live anymore…

    Yea I bet his friends list private is Two! Same boat just opposite Honestly im sure your a beautiful female that a man will swoop you up in seconds! Hol ya head up baby damsel!

    I am 37, my gf is 25.. I recently had suspicions that my gf cheated on me with one of her work man friends.. I confronted him.. He came clean and told me it happened a duo times.. I confronted my gf about it about two weeks ago, we talked for hours about it.. I was crushed!! I haven’t been no angel my entire life but she is one woman that ive been truly faithful to.. I can’t stop thinking about this everyday.. Knowing that she did this to me.. I want to budge past this, I told her that I want this relationship.. she seems genuinely upset about this and wants to stir on with our relationship. I just don’t know how to stir on from this.. Any and all advice would help!!

    We are hurting with you. Stay strong. You deserve so much better! Talk with us online anytime, we are here for you! http://www.thehopeline.com/GetHelp/

    My gf and I have been together for eight months now. She admitted to telling that she loved her ex during our fourth month and then she told another ex she had feelings for him during our seventh. Idk what to do Bc I love her so much. Please help

    Me n my bf almost three yrs in love .but now he telling that he don’t need me anymore.i think he have another paramour..wht should I do.i don’t know..I love him alot .now adays i blubbering n mad .should I make fresh bf to make him jealous?plz help me.😢

    Our talk system can translate many languages. Please talk with a HopeCoach about what is going on with you ex. We are here to listen and help. http://www.thehopeline.com/gethelp.

    its either u lve her or u leave her alone shame in this one

    Leave her. There is nothing much to be said here. If she had respect for you and your common well-doings, then the 2nd man wouldn’t even exist. Face the truth that there are endless opportunities out there to meet your true love.

    I have been dating this damsel and I went to see family for a week and she texts me that she was unfaithful in our relationship and that she kissed another boy. I was enraged but I didn’t let her she it. I love her so much and I would do anything to make it work inbetween us. She says she is truly sorry and that she needs time to gather herself, I am worried so bad. She said that wile she gathers herself we aren’t dating and that she wants me to be there for her when she is ready, but I might just be assuming the worst but I think this entire “gathering myself” thing is her attempting to get with the other stud, because we aren’t dating and it won’t be cheating and she wants to come back to me when it doesn’t work out. I love her so much and I would do anything for her. I need her in my life and I need help. What should I do?

    I love how the author’s very first advice is not to tell anyone. Keeping your playmate’s infidelity secret only helps them maintain a veneer of normality and hurts you instead. What garbage.

    I am sorry you misunderstood Dawson’s advice. Part one is about protecting your own self-worth and Dawson suggests finding people you can trust to talk to about what happened, “Surround yourself with good friends and wise counselors who can help you sort through your emotions and detect what has actually taken place.” HopeCoaches are available on talk 24/7.

    My gf of two years cheated on me with my friend for a year. She can’t face me to talk about why she did it

    Just found out my gf is cheating things have been difficult for a while and she left her facebook on and I found messages she gave me her password for her facebook and email address just a duo on months ago when she had a stroke and i nursed her back to health I got into serious finical difficulty since I had a lot of time off work and walking a lean line now with my bosses. She has bipolar and it could be down to that but seen she’s on pof and free dating as well as sleeping with her ex. I just don’t know what to do due to her instability she was manhandled by her ex spouse as was her two children who look up to me as a father. We’ve been together for almost three years and have been engaged we announced it when she had the stroke but she recently called it off telling she’s scarred about getting tied down again. Any ideas about what to do as I don’t want to lose her and with her bipolar it may peaceful down again and lodge but things are difficult at the moment.

    I am so sorry you are going through this. You sound like a indeed stable and loyal person. This is a lot for one person to treat. You can talk with us anytime 24/7 and we can help you sort through some solutions. We are here for you – http://www.thehopeline.com/gethelp/

    My fiance cheated on me last summer. We have been together for ten years, engaged for Four. We have two children together, and his two children from a previous marriage live with us also. He confessed that he cheated on me and that the dame was pregnant. I told him I was willing to work on our relationship and forgive him. He told me he had feelings for her, and was not in love with me anymore. She ended up having a miscarriage a few months later, and he assured me that they were just gonna be friends, they also worked together. I was not ok with that and just had to deal with it as I was willing to do anything to make it work. He told me last December that he wasnt communticating with her anymore, they were just coworkers. It was very hard and there have been lots of fights and arguments. Then two months ago she contacted me on facebook and told me they were still watching each other and screenshotted tons of text messages. He told her he loved her, and was still sleeping with her the entire time. I am very hurt and dont know if i can trust him again. He has lied to me this entire time. He begged me for another chance and told me I am the one he wants to be with. Im not coaxed that hes not still talking to her. She no longer works with him. I dont know what to do or believe anymore.

    I was moving my gf’s phone off the bed the other night when I noticed a reply to a Craigslist ad she posted for Feb and I’m pretty tore up I don’t know what I should do next monthwould be four years and we live together how do I confront her

    My fiance and i have been together for about almost three years. We were suppose to get married in December. Our relationship for about a year was pretty unhealty. i never dreamed to leave and neither did she. I never treated her right and disrespected her on innumerable occasions and never would listen to her. The night of my bday i had shoved her and humilated her infront of all of our friends. A few days later she said she couldnt take it anymore and left. There was alot of grey area. Well while she was gone she ended up meeting someone. I found the evidence a few weeks after my bday. We continued to stay separated but she said she desired to work it out and go to counseling. I recently found out durning the time we were still apart but after i found out she cheated on me, she sent the woman flowers. She is living back home now and we are still going to counseling. She said she has completley cut it off with the woman but i just dont know and im very hurt

    My gf cheated on me at a work party utterly toasted with a coworker and I don’t know what to do

    i had a ideal relationship of three & half years and then she went to calcutta for her studies and i was all alone i felt like i was left out and after few months she began to disregard me she blocked me in instagram, whatsapp and even put my phone no in reject list then all of unexpected a boy txted me telling stop calling his gf i was mad but the fact was that fellow was from the same college where my gf was studying iam feeling so down right now and i dont know what to do.

    ok here goes i never done this but any help would be appreciated. In Oct of two thousand fourteen my wifey passed away at forty two all of a sudden devastated me, for about six months i was very alone so went on dating sites and found a dame i embarked dating. Way to soon i know now. well to make a long story brief after a few months i moved her in with me and things i thought where going ok, by the way by me moving her in it helped her one hundred times financially and i pay all the bills and ask her for no financial support at all. So i find out in August after we had a argument a crimson flag went off to check dating sites and wham there she was on the one we met on, Since February meeting guys behind my back at least six to Ten. and oh yea she was married three times before and never ever talks about her past and gets mad when i ask her to. so i cleared my head and the next day confronted her about it and she said it was my fault i was pushing her away by not getting over my wifey. well then i found her on at least eight more sites and her texts messages where very detailed and she admitted to meeting guys for attention i wasn’t providing her blah blah blah. So since then i put my life on hold and have done nothing but work on this relationship attempting to stir forward and yes i put ninety nine percent of my baggage down about my wifey because i know how i was and it was very hard to let go. After being Married twenty four years in a 100% trustful marriage. I linked out FB accounts and said no more hiding her phone and no secretes. Well I’m having a indeed hard time trusting her again even however she says she’s not doing anything. I’m not sure but i think she may be a serial cheater from everything i read. She say she can just shut her mind off and not think of anything like she has no guilt and can act like everything is fine. when we talk she always says I’m rehashing what happened. WONDER WHY!! I lost twenty five Lbs in three weeks over this krap and I’m sick of being sick over it. its been over two months now and I’m still attempting but i got this bad feeling its just a matter of time before she does it again. there is a lot more i could tell you but i wont bore you. any thoughts or advice would be superb. Thanks.

    I’ve been with my bf for two years now, he’s done various things in the past year (messaging chicks/saving there numbers/social media names to add later on etc) in August he went on holiday with his dad his cousin and there two friends for five days, I thought everything was ideal before he left, During the holiday he added a damsel from his cousins phone and they obviously began to talk (this was on an app he had swore he never had) and obviously just downloaded it while he was on holiday… I was entirely oblivious of this until 1-2 weeks after his comeback, we was driving in his car and he’s music was playing – he got a FaceTime call from a number saved under ‘A’ and I obviously questioned him he said he didn’t know so I accepted the call and to my surprise was a youthful chick in her hooter-sling as soon as she spotted me she disconnected the phone. I attempted to ring but there was no reaction so I text her from his phone telling who is this, she claimed it was the wrong person.. I was going crazy at my beau attempting to get the truth from him we eventually got to his friends house I attempted calling her again the female refused to speak to me and my bf was on the phone to her screaming telling ‘who the F are you how dare you lie about me’ ‘I don’t know you, I have a gf’ I was blubbering so much I had to walk away for a breath – but when I walked away he begged her not to tell me I woke up to a message from her the next morning with her telling me everything he had said he told her he desired ‘a serious relationship’ and asked for nude photos it honestly crushed me- he had told her she wasn’t permitted to save any of his messages she had mentioned to me she found this suspicious- she literally told me all the things he was telling to her and while he was on holiday he was being so nice to me. Earlier in the day before I had found out he had never been more horrible to me, he made me get in his car was driving ridiculously swift telling me my mother and father think I’m a liability and they hate me and I also suffer with depression and had attempted once before to commit suicide- he even said that they wouldn’t have cared if I did and that no one would care apart from him, as we came to a set of ref lights I attempted to get out the car and he grabbed me by my neck, the way he looked at me was not the person I fell in love with, he was so different this day and later in the day is when the female face timed him while we was in the car together, She told me the next day that that day he was begging to meet her but she was busy. This is obviously why he was so evil to me. I don’t know what to do because I haven’t loved anyone more than him – it’s now November and last month I found him watching fountains of porn online and texting one of those lovemaking people things, We’ve argued so much since and I think it’s the underlying issue that how much agony he caused me I just can’t forgive him I would never be unloyal to who I have made a commitment too- I’ve attempted to leave him fairly a few times since and he blackmails me by telling degrading things about my figure and that no one would want me, he also says so much that he will ‘bait’ me and post pictures of me online, he’s told me to die after attempting to commit suicide and told me no one would care if I did, he is always telling things about my bod which I now entirely hate, I’m so stuck and I don’t know what to do he was everything I would’ve ever asked for in the very first year of our relationship, I don’t even know who he is anymore – he says if he can’t have me no one can, He’s stopped me from observing all of my friends but one and even then I’m not permitted to go out she will have to come to my house, during arguments if I attempt to defend myself to hurt me he tells me he’s cheated on me with nine damsels all are ‘so much better’ than me, he says I’m a ‘bed warmer’ and asks me ‘how his other ladies taste’ he does whatever he likes when he likes and I feel he just sees me as his possession now. A number of times when I have attempted to leave him he tells me he’s going to kill himself he has even cut my name and lots of other things into his gams and sent pictures to me, he’s text his mum telling ‘you won’t see me again and to thank my gf’ I honestly don’t know what to do I haven’t told anyone. I am so stuck and so lost

    It sounds like you are in a physically and emotionally abusive relationship. All of the manipulation and cheating is a reflection on his character. You may need help leaving him. Do you have someone you can trust and tell about what is happening? We are here for you 24/7 to help you work through a plan of escape and to provide resources. Click the “talk now” button to embark the conversation with a HopeCoach.

    My female cheat on me, few days ago she said she going back to her sister house but turns fthat she going to meet with the stud she cheat with, fortunately Her phone left in my car and I drove away and there I spotted her talk and i read everything, that how i know she cheating on me. Then I just play her game, but the anguish is there, what should I do?

    It is indeed excellent that the two of you are talking about it. Good open truthful communication is a indeed significant part of a healthy relationship. We have a free eBook on cheating that the both of you could read through together. It talks about building trust and about what causes cheating and more. Here is the link – http://info.thehopeline.com/relationshipscheating-ebook

    Colton, It’s significant that you talk to someone about how you are feeling. You deserved better and we care. Please talk online with one of our HopeCoaches that will listen and help you through this at http://www.thehopeline.com/gethelp.

    hi guys i know most of u wont be interested in my story. But i liked a damsel we embarked to talk and after a few weeks she told she was divorced. I was heart cracked but i however hey i liked her when i did know this how can i say no to her when i got to know her now. After this i embarked to love her more then before. I desired to make up for other things that happened to her in past. Surely i made mistakes but i did what i could for her. She was bipolar when we were in 3rd year of med school. That was hardest time for us. All of unexpected some days she used to asked me to plead she didn’t got pregnant. And i used to laugh like wtfff? How i didnt even touch u. Years went by and we went back to our countries for house job in hospitals. And i was mad and sad about that, I commenced to be upset and we had arguments and those argument led to fight. We went back and forward. One she will b all fine next day a stranger. Then after duo months she said she need time to think anyways we stopped talking. I got to know from my friends thats she is talking to other people but when i used to ask her she used to say im not and im studying for exams. Anyways i love her so much that i never said a word about it. I loved her so much that i got to know that she cheated on me many times thats y she used to say Plead IM NOT PREGNANT. Today i got to know this its horrible for me. I gave everything to that doll just cos hse was violated she said she is glad that she got divorced so she found me and i made her love life again. now i know she is there living blessed life and me here thinking blubbering and imagining her.

    Hey my gf cheated on me because I was always accusing her of so she had never done anything t till now I feel like it was my fault for pushing her that far but I also feel hurt wat should I do

    I think my ex cheated on me while we were dating. We broke up back in July but we were still living together until the end of October when we both moved out into different places. Across those months we would sleep together on and off and we joked around telling that we became friends with benefits. After the stir out, I attempted to stay in contact because he says that we would get back together in time. We broke up because we were fighting a lot and we agreed that we both needed space to grow. I spotted him a duo of times and he’d flirt with me and made it seem like he desired me. I didn’t want to rush him but I desired him back. But I determined I’d wait til he was ready to get back together. And now just recently I found out he’s been watching someone for awhile. He got my hopes up, broke my heart and didn’t even care. He displayed no sympathy, lied even after I caught them out together. How do I stir on? This is my very first break up and I’ve dated him for six and half years, we even talked about marriage. I’m going crazy…. plz help….

    Contemplation is the cousin of an act

    i eyed my Girlfriends picture on another guys IG ans she told me she is modeling footwear for the stud, The man also posted a picture with my dame friend on her birth day, eve posted another picture of the man and my girlfirnd on fresh year. Still my female friend is telling me that she is not the person posting the picture, she said the man is crushing on her. What should i do ??

    My gf who was one year junior than me was with me in relationship a few years ago… Then she embarked to get affairs with some other fellow who is one of my friend. I don’t have anything to do but I still plead for her and I will proceed to plead for her until I get her back….

    Lately my gf cheated on me after one year relationship , I found out she was with her ex bf for four years while being with me . She was going out late night lately telling that going to meet her relative and I followed her car then it was her ex bf house . I have called him and tell him the situation then both of us confronted infront, then she says she wants her ex BF . After few days she came back to me telling that it was her mistake and ask for forgiveness I was angry at very first and scolded her for doing bad to me then I accept her after few weeks she is still blaming me telling that it’s not more the same and I am treating her bad but to be fair I am attempting my best and she says that she starts to hate me . And I found out yesterday she is using another phone and was online till morning . To be fair I don’t know what to do …

    The boy I’ve been dating for two years have told me that he has feelings for another woman. But he doesn’t love her as much as he loves me (He said this in his own words). I’m not sure what to do. I am in so much anguish.. He has cheated on me before but that was over a year ago and he attempted his very best to regain my trust and when I almost trusted him fully he goes to tell me this.. I confronted him about her and he didn’t hesitate to admit his wrong doing. I don’t know anymore. Ugh.

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    Your BF/GF is Cheating on You…Now What?

    If you have ever uncovered the painful truth that the person you feel you love is cheating on you, you very likely asked yourself:What am I supposed to do now? What should my response be to this betrayal? There is no doubt you have felt a broad range of confusing emotions. As you can imagine, all the feelings you have had make it very difficult to quickly make any kind of wise decision on what to do next.

    It’s significant to understand there are different kinds of behavior people call cheating, some of which might not be cheating at all.

    What Is Cheating?

    For example, it’s significant to understand there are different kinds of behavior people call cheating, some of which are not cheating at all. If someone asks you out just once, and then soon after asks someone else out, that’s not cheating. That’s simply dating around. Believe me, there’s nothing wrong with dating around. On the other forearm, if you have been dating that person for a while and you both commit to dating exclusively, and that person dates someone else behind your back, that’s cheating. Obviously, if someone says Will you be my fiance?, and you accept, and then they date behind your back, that’s cheating. If the person you are dating for some time has hook-up, or inappropriate sexual behavior with another person, that’s cheating.

    So what should you do when you know your bf/gf is cheating on you?

    Don’t let the lies and deceit of your bf/gf haul you down into the gutter with them.

    Now Take These Three Steps To Protect Yourself:

    1. The very first thing you need to do is wait. Don’t do anything. Let your feelings silent down. Regardless of what you have discovered, there’s no need to go around trashing the person who’s cheated on you, or even the one he/she did it with. Stay above the betrayal. Don’t let the lies and deceit of your bf/gf haul you down into the gutter with them. Keep your deep sense of individual dignity and healthy self-worth. You only make matters worse by acting out of anger and confusion. The entire world doesn’t need to know you have been violated.
    2. Surround yourself with good friends and wise counselors who can help you sort through your emotions and detect what has actually taken place. Get your friends and others you trust to calmly uncover what has been happening behind your back. Usually your friends are the very first to know. These people are priceless to you because you can talk through your emotions with them. Left to yourself you will only get caught in a circle of confusion, hurt, and resentment.
    3. Confront your bf/gf in private. Confrontation is never effortless, but you will never get to the bottom of what has happened or begin healing until you have talked with your cheating bf/gf. It’s very significant to have this confrontation face-to-face if possible. Assets language (facial expressions, etc.) will tell you a lot. Make sure you have the facts before the confrontation. If you attempt to confront without evidence, you will most likely be lied to or stir up deep resentment in the person you are accusing.Sometimes the person being confronted will attempt to blame you for the very thing he/she has done. This is the kind of practice Kristy had:I just broke up with my beau of two years. It was a break-up/makeup relationship. He would do something wrong, like cheat, and somehow blame it on me; make me feel like it was my fault that he cheated, that somehow I drove him to it. Then he’d break up with me, and a few days later, we’d get back together.

    Sometimes you feel like causing a big scene to bring shame to the other person, and you end up just looking like a idiot.

    While confronting, deal with the source of the problem, your bf/gf, and don’t concentrate on the person they’ve cheated with. Sometimes you feel like bringing shame to the other person, and you end up just looking like a loser. Attempt to detect if your cheating bf/gf is truly repentant for what he/she has done. Some people are just sorry because they got caught. It will take time for you to know whether or not your bf/gf is truly sorry for their betrayal of you. Some people when confronted become defensive, belligerent, and angry. That is a good sign they have no intention of ever getting back with you again. See their reaction for what it is. Sometimes it’s just better to walk away and stay away.

    Determining whether or not you are going to attempt and salvage the relationship could be one of the most significant decisions you will ever make.

  • Consider a time-out from your relationship. Determining whether or not you are going to attempt and salvage the relationship could be one of the most significant decisions you will ever make. A time-out will give you a chance to get wise counsel from other people and determine whether or not the relationship is worth saving. Don’t make the mistake of KT: My ex beau was a wank and treated me so badly. He’d call me names and he’d cheat on me and give me the guilt journey telling I will never find anyone like him or even as good as him cause he is that unique. All my friends told me to leave himthat my friends are all that I need to be blessed, and a good stud will come along when he comes along. But I didn’t listen to my friends, even tho’ they have given me very good advice for two years now. I just didn’t listen cause my ex bf sort of brain washed me in a way. Now that I understand and accept it, I am doing so much better.
  • It will take time for the relationship to heal, if ever. Trust has been shattered and recovering trust takes a long time.

    If you determine the relationship is salvageable, your cheating bf/gf will have to understand it will take time for the relationship to heal, if ever. Trust has been shattered and recovering trust takes a long time. In the end, if you determine the relationship cannot be healed or mended, take some off from dating to find yourself and permit yourself to become stronger. Some relationships cannot be saved no matter what you do. So don’t bring unnecessary drama and unnecessary hurt into your life by not letting go.

    Steven said something incredible when he commented:Everybody has free will and [my gf] had the will to cheat as she pleases and I can’t switch that. But I also have free will. The free will to not give her power over me and to budge on to lead a productive life. The people who loved me and the ones I loved were counting on me. I dropped my pride and cried out for help. Know your own self-worth and sob out for the help you need. You are worth it!

    Check out my other blogs that might help you if you’ve just been cheated on:

    when a boy love his phone ,whenever a text comes in he hides while he is textin so I cant see..

    and its not like I can read it because he always delete his text..it kills me when he does these things

    I have a bought that my bf cheat on my back side . N when ever m attempting to talk about this he begin weeping in front of me n said no m not cheating on you m earnestly love u n all that . Plz tell me what to do . M emotionally confused . There is a war inbetween my heart n my brain .

    Dating someone for about two months and determined to stir in with her since her and i BOTH thought things were going so well. Had a excursion planned to a convention before I commenced dating her so i could indeed back out of it. Found out that while i was going t be on this journey, she was going to cheat with me with some other stud. Confronted her about it and I forgave her. Month or two goes by, spotted that she was sending pics to some random dude, and then while I had some family issues happening at the moment and I was off attempting to mend them, she wished to visit the same fellow from before to cheat on me. I love this lady, she keeps planning our future together, telling what we should do, what we will do in the future, but three times, and I still forgave her…will she truly do it again?

    Got a msg from a random dame and boy telling my gf cheated idk what to do I asked her about it but she said it wasn’t true..they where snapchats inbetween them

    my beau of nine years acts like he is single on Facebook and will ask anybody out on it, even his sister trys to get him with her friends. i can’t take it no more! when I told him I know what he’s up to, he says to stay out of his business :(. we met in middle school and I never been with anyone else. I love him so much!! this makes me not want to live anymore…

    Yea I bet his friends list private is Two! Same boat just opposite Honestly im sure your a beautiful female that a man will swoop you up in seconds! Hol ya head up baby lady!

    I am 37, my gf is 25.. I recently had suspicions that my gf cheated on me with one of her work dude friends.. I confronted him.. He came clean and told me it happened a duo times.. I confronted my gf about it about two weeks ago, we talked for hours about it.. I was crushed!! I haven’t been no angel my entire life but she is one woman that ive been truly faithful to.. I can’t stop thinking about this everyday.. Knowing that she did this to me.. I want to budge past this, I told her that I want this relationship.. she seems genuinely upset about this and wants to budge on with our relationship. I just don’t know how to stir on from this.. Any and all advice would help!!

    We are hurting with you. Stay strong. You deserve so much better! Talk with us online anytime, we are here for you! http://www.thehopeline.com/GetHelp/

    My gf and I have been together for eight months now. She admitted to telling that she loved her ex during our fourth month and then she told another ex she had feelings for him during our seventh. Idk what to do Bc I love her so much. Please help

    Me n my bf almost three yrs in love .but now he telling that he don’t need me anymore.i think he have another paramour..wht should I do.i don’t know..I love him alot .now adays i weeping n mad .should I make fresh bf to make him jealous?plz help me.😢

    Our talk system can translate many languages. Please talk with a HopeCoach about what is going on with you ex. We are here to listen and help. http://www.thehopeline.com/gethelp.

    its either u lve her or u leave her alone shame in this one

    Leave her. There is nothing much to be said here. If she had respect for you and your common well-doings, then the 2nd man wouldn’t even exist. Face the truth that there are endless opportunities out there to meet your true love.

    I have been dating this dame and I went to see family for a week and she texts me that she was unfaithful in our relationship and that she kissed another stud. I was enraged but I didn’t let her she it. I love her so much and I would do anything to make it work inbetween us. She says she is indeed sorry and that she needs time to gather herself, I am worried so bad. She said that wile she gathers herself we aren’t dating and that she wants me to be there for her when she is ready, but I might just be assuming the worst but I think this entire “gathering myself” thing is her attempting to get with the other stud, because we aren’t dating and it won’t be cheating and she wants to come back to me when it doesn’t work out. I love her so much and I would do anything for her. I need her in my life and I need help. What should I do?

    I love how the author’s very first advice is not to tell anyone. Keeping your playmate’s infidelity secret only helps them maintain a veneer of normality and hurts you instead. What garbage.

    I am sorry you misunderstood Dawson’s advice. Part one is about protecting your own self-worth and Dawson suggests finding people you can trust to talk to about what happened, “Surround yourself with good friends and wise counselors who can help you sort through your emotions and detect what has actually taken place.” HopeCoaches are available on talk 24/7.

    My gf of two years cheated on me with my friend for a year. She can’t face me to talk about why she did it

    Just found out my gf is cheating things have been difficult for a while and she left her facebook on and I found messages she gave me her password for her facebook and email address just a duo on months ago when she had a stroke and i nursed her back to health I got into serious finical difficulty since I had a lot of time off work and walking a lean line now with my bosses. She has bipolar and it could be down to that but seen she’s on pof and free dating as well as sleeping with her ex. I just don’t know what to do due to her instability she was manhandled by her ex hubby as was her two children who look up to me as a father. We’ve been together for almost three years and have been engaged we announced it when she had the stroke but she recently called it off telling she’s scarred about getting tied down again. Any ideas about what to do as I don’t want to lose her and with her bipolar it may quiet down again and lodge but things are difficult at the moment.

    I am so sorry you are going through this. You sound like a indeed stable and loyal person. This is a lot for one person to treat. You can talk with us anytime 24/7 and we can help you sort through some solutions. We are here for you – http://www.thehopeline.com/gethelp/

    My fiance cheated on me last summer. We have been together for ten years, engaged for Four. We have two children together, and his two children from a previous marriage live with us also. He confessed that he cheated on me and that the lady was pregnant. I told him I was willing to work on our relationship and forgive him. He told me he had feelings for her, and was not in love with me anymore. She ended up having a miscarriage a few months later, and he assured me that they were just gonna be friends, they also worked together. I was not ok with that and just had to deal with it as I was willing to do anything to make it work. He told me last December that he wasnt communticating with her anymore, they were just coworkers. It was very hard and there have been lots of fights and arguments. Then two months ago she contacted me on facebook and told me they were still watching each other and screenshotted tons of text messages. He told her he loved her, and was still sleeping with her the entire time. I am very hurt and dont know if i can trust him again. He has lied to me this entire time. He begged me for another chance and told me I am the one he wants to be with. Im not persuaded that hes not still talking to her. She no longer works with him. I dont know what to do or believe anymore.

    I was moving my gf’s phone off the bed the other night when I noticed a reply to a Craigslist ad she posted for Feb and I’m pretty tore up I don’t know what I should do next monthwould be four years and we live together how do I confront her

    My fiance and i have been together for about almost three years. We were suppose to get married in December. Our relationship for about a year was pretty unhealty. i never dreamed to leave and neither did she. I never treated her right and disrespected her on innumerable occasions and never would listen to her. The night of my bday i had shoved her and humilated her infront of all of our friends. A few days later she said she couldnt take it anymore and left. There was alot of grey area. Well while she was gone she ended up meeting someone. I found the evidence a few weeks after my bday. We continued to stay separated but she said she desired to work it out and go to counseling. I recently found out durning the time we were still apart but after i found out she cheated on me, she sent the dame flowers. She is living back home now and we are still going to counseling. She said she has completley cut it off with the female but i just dont know and im very hurt

    My gf cheated on me at a work party utterly inebriated with a coworker and I don’t know what to do

    i had a ideal relationship of three & half years and then she went to calcutta for her studies and i was all alone i felt like i was left out and after few months she began to disregard me she blocked me in instagram, whatsapp and even put my phone no in reject list then all of unexpected a man txted me telling stop calling his gf i was mad but the fact was that boy was from the same college where my gf was studying iam feeling so down right now and i dont know what to do.

    ok here goes i never done this but any help would be appreciated. In Oct of two thousand fourteen my wifey passed away at forty two abruptly devastated me, for about six months i was very alone so went on dating sites and found a chick i began dating. Way to soon i know now. well to make a long story brief after a few months i moved her in with me and things i thought where going ok, by the way by me moving her in it helped her one hundred times financially and i pay all the bills and ask her for no financial support at all. So i find out in August after we had a argument a crimson flag went off to check dating sites and wham there she was on the one we met on, Since February meeting guys behind my back at least six to Ten. and oh yea she was married three times before and never ever talks about her past and gets mad when i ask her to. so i cleared my head and the next day confronted her about it and she said it was my fault i was pushing her away by not getting over my wifey. well then i found her on at least eight more sites and her texts messages where very detailed and she admitted to meeting guys for attention i wasn’t providing her blah blah blah. So since then i put my life on hold and have done nothing but work on this relationship attempting to budge forward and yes i put ninety nine percent of my baggage down about my wifey because i know how i was and it was very hard to let go. After being Married twenty four years in a 100% trustful marriage. I linked out FB accounts and said no more hiding her phone and no secretes. Well I’m having a indeed hard time trusting her again even however she says she’s not doing anything. I’m not sure but i think she may be a serial cheater from everything i read. She say she can just shut her mind off and not think of anything like she has no guilt and can act like everything is good. when we talk she always says I’m rehashing what happened. WONDER WHY!! I lost twenty five Lbs in three weeks over this krap and I’m sick of being sick over it. its been over two months now and I’m still attempting but i got this bad feeling its just a matter of time before she does it again. there is a lot more i could tell you but i wont bore you. any thoughts or advice would be superb. Thanks.

    I’ve been with my beau for two years now, he’s done various things in the past year (messaging damsels/saving there numbers/social media names to add later on etc) in August he went on holiday with his dad his cousin and there two friends for five days, I thought everything was ideal before he left, During the holiday he added a chick from his cousins phone and they obviously began to talk (this was on an app he had swore he never had) and obviously just downloaded it while he was on holiday… I was entirely oblivious of this until 1-2 weeks after his comeback, we was driving in his car and he’s music was playing – he got a FaceTime call from a number saved under ‘A’ and I obviously questioned him he said he didn’t know so I accepted the call and to my surprise was a youthful chick in her hooter-sling as soon as she spotted me she disconnected the phone. I attempted to ring but there was no response so I text her from his phone telling who is this, she claimed it was the wrong person.. I was going crazy at my beau attempting to get the truth from him we eventually got to his friends house I attempted calling her again the female refused to speak to me and my bf was on the phone to her screaming telling ‘who the F are you how dare you lie about me’ ‘I don’t know you, I have a gf’ I was weeping so much I had to walk away for a breath – but when I walked away he begged her not to tell me I woke up to a message from her the next morning with her telling me everything he had said he told her he dreamed ‘a serious relationship’ and asked for nude photos it honestly crushed me- he had told her she wasn’t permitted to save any of his messages she had mentioned to me she found this suspicious- she literally told me all the things he was telling to her and while he was on holiday he was being so nice to me. Earlier in the day before I had found out he had never been more horrible to me, he made me get in his car was driving ridiculously rapid telling me my mother and father think I’m a liability and they hate me and I also suffer with depression and had attempted once before to commit suicide- he even said that they wouldn’t have cared if I did and that no one would care apart from him, as we came to a set of ref lights I attempted to get out the car and he grabbed me by my neck, the way he looked at me was not the person I fell in love with, he was so different this day and later in the day is when the female face timed him while we was in the car together, She told me the next day that that day he was begging to meet her but she was busy. This is obviously why he was so evil to me. I don’t know what to do because I haven’t loved anyone more than him – it’s now November and last month I found him watching explosions of porn online and texting one of those lovemaking people things, We’ve argued so much since and I think it’s the underlying issue that how much ache he caused me I just can’t forgive him I would never be unloyal to who I have made a commitment too- I’ve attempted to leave him fairly a few times since and he blackmails me by telling degrading things about my assets and that no one would want me, he also says so much that he will ‘bait’ me and post pictures of me online, he’s told me to die after attempting to commit suicide and told me no one would care if I did, he is always telling things about my bod which I now downright hate, I’m so stuck and I don’t know what to do he was everything I would’ve ever asked for in the very first year of our relationship, I don’t even know who he is anymore – he says if he can’t have me no one can, He’s stopped me from eyeing all of my friends but one and even then I’m not permitted to go out she will have to come to my house, during arguments if I attempt to defend myself to hurt me he tells me he’s cheated on me with nine women all are ‘so much better’ than me, he says I’m a ‘bed warmer’ and asks me ‘how his other chicks taste’ he does whatever he likes when he likes and I feel he just sees me as his possession now. A number of times when I have attempted to leave him he tells me he’s going to kill himself he has even cut my name and lots of other things into his gams and sent pictures to me, he’s text his mum telling ‘you won’t see me again and to thank my gf’ I honestly don’t know what to do I haven’t told anyone. I am so stuck and so lost

    It sounds like you are in a physically and emotionally abusive relationship. All of the manipulation and cheating is a reflection on his character. You may need help leaving him. Do you have someone you can trust and tell about what is happening? We are here for you 24/7 to help you work through a plan of escape and to provide resources. Click the “talk now” button to begin the conversation with a HopeCoach.

    My chick cheat on me, few days ago she said she going back to her sister house but turns fthat she going to meet with the boy she cheat with, fortunately Her phone left in my car and I drove away and there I eyed her talk and i read everything, that how i know she cheating on me. Then I just play her game, but the agony is there, what should I do?

    It is indeed excellent that the two of you are talking about it. Good open truthful communication is a truly significant part of a healthy relationship. We have a free eBook on cheating that the both of you could read through together. It talks about building trust and about what causes cheating and more. Here is the link – http://info.thehopeline.com/relationshipscheating-ebook

    Colton, It’s significant that you talk to someone about how you are feeling. You deserved better and we care. Please talk online with one of our HopeCoaches that will listen and help you through this at http://www.thehopeline.com/gethelp.

    hi guys i know most of u wont be interested in my story. But i liked a damsel we commenced to talk and after a few weeks she told she was divorced. I was heart cracked but i however hey i liked her when i did know this how can i say no to her when i got to know her now. After this i commenced to love her more then before. I wished to make up for other things that happened to her in past. Surely i made mistakes but i did what i could for her. She was bipolar when we were in 3rd year of med school. That was hardest time for us. All of unexpected some days she used to asked me to beg she didn’t got pregnant. And i used to laugh like wtfff? How i didnt even touch u. Years went by and we went back to our countries for house job in hospitals. And i was mad and sad about that, I began to be upset and we had arguments and those argument led to fight. We went back and forward. One she will b all fine next day a stranger. Then after duo months she said she need time to think anyways we stopped talking. I got to know from my friends thats she is talking to other people but when i used to ask her she used to say im not and im studying for exams. Anyways i love her so much that i never said a word about it. I loved her so much that i got to know that she cheated on me many times thats y she used to say Beg IM NOT PREGNANT. Today i got to know this its horrible for me. I gave everything to that doll just cos hse was cracked she said she is blessed that she got divorced so she found me and i made her love life again. now i know she is there living blessed life and me here thinking weeping and imagining her.

    Hey my gf cheated on me because I was always accusing her of so she had never done anything t till now I feel like it was my fault for pushing her that far but I also feel hurt wat should I do

    I think my ex cheated on me while we were dating. We broke up back in July but we were still living together until the end of October when we both moved out into different places. Via those months we would sleep together on and off and we joked around telling that we became friends with benefits. After the budge out, I attempted to stay in contact because he says that we would get back together in time. We broke up because we were fighting a lot and we agreed that we both needed space to grow. I eyed him a duo of times and he’d flirt with me and made it seem like he dreamed me. I didn’t want to rush him but I wished him back. But I determined I’d wait til he was ready to get back together. And now just recently I found out he’s been watching someone for awhile. He got my hopes up, broke my heart and didn’t even care. He demonstrated no sympathy, lied even after I caught them out together. How do I stir on? This is my very first break up and I’ve dated him for six and half years, we even talked about marriage. I’m going crazy…. plz help….

    Contemplation is the cousin of an activity

    i spotted my Girlfriends picture on another guys IG ans she told me she is modeling boots for the dude, The dude also posted a picture with my female friend on her birth day, eve posted another picture of the stud and my girlfirnd on fresh year. Still my dame friend is telling me that she is not the person posting the picture, she said the stud is crushing on her. What should i do ??

    My gf who was one year junior than me was with me in relationship a few years ago… Then she embarked to get affairs with some other boy who is one of my friend. I don’t have anything to do but I still plead for her and I will proceed to beg for her until I get her back….

    Lately my gf cheated on me after one year relationship , I found out she was with her ex bf for four years while being with me . She was going out late night lately telling that going to meet her relative and I followed her car then it was her ex bf house . I have called him and tell him the situation then both of us confronted infront, then she says she wants her ex BF . After few days she came back to me telling that it was her mistake and ask for forgiveness I was angry at very first and scolded her for doing bad to me then I accept her after few weeks she is still blaming me telling that it’s not more the same and I am treating her bad but to be fair I am attempting my best and she says that she starts to hate me . And I found out yesterday she is using another phone and was online till morning . To be fair I don’t know what to do …

    The boy I’ve been dating for two years have told me that he has feelings for another woman. But he doesn’t love her as much as he loves me (He said this in his own words). I’m not sure what to do. I am in so much ache.. He has cheated on me before but that was over a year ago and he attempted his very best to regain my trust and when I almost trusted him fully he goes to tell me this.. I confronted him about her and he didn’t hesitate to admit his wrong doing. I don’t know anymore. Ugh.

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    Your BF/GF is Cheating on You…Now What?

    If you have ever uncovered the painful truth that the person you feel you love is cheating on you, you most likely asked yourself:What am I supposed to do now? What should my response be to this betrayal? There is no doubt you have felt a broad range of confusing emotions. As you can imagine, all the feelings you have had make it very difficult to quickly make any kind of wise decision on what to do next.

    It’s significant to understand there are different kinds of behavior people call cheating, some of which might not be cheating at all.

    What Is Cheating?

    For example, it’s significant to understand there are different kinds of behavior people call cheating, some of which are not cheating at all. If someone asks you out just once, and then soon after asks someone else out, that’s not cheating. That’s simply dating around. Believe me, there’s nothing wrong with dating around. On the other arm, if you have been dating that person for a while and you both commit to dating exclusively, and that person dates someone else behind your back, that’s cheating. Obviously, if someone says Will you be my fiance?, and you accept, and then they date behind your back, that’s cheating. If the person you are dating for some time has hookup, or inappropriate sexual behavior with another person, that’s cheating.

    So what should you do when you know your bf/gf is cheating on you?

    Don’t let the lies and deceit of your bf/gf haul you down into the gutter with them.

    Now Take These Three Steps To Protect Yourself:

    1. The very first thing you need to do is wait. Don’t do anything. Let your feelings silent down. Regardless of what you have discovered, there’s no need to go around trashing the person who’s cheated on you, or even the one he/she did it with. Stay above the betrayal. Don’t let the lies and deceit of your bf/gf haul you down into the gutter with them. Keep your deep sense of individual dignity and healthy self-worth. You only make matters worse by acting out of anger and confusion. The entire world doesn’t need to know you have been violated.
    2. Surround yourself with good friends and wise counselors who can help you sort through your emotions and detect what has actually taken place. Get your friends and others you trust to calmly uncover what has been happening behind your back. Usually your friends are the very first to know. These people are priceless to you because you can talk through your emotions with them. Left to yourself you will only get caught in a circle of confusion, hurt, and resentment.
    3. Confront your bf/gf in private. Confrontation is never effortless, but you will never get to the bottom of what has happened or begin healing until you have talked with your cheating bf/gf. It’s very significant to have this confrontation face-to-face if possible. Figure language (facial expressions, etc.) will tell you a lot. Make sure you have the facts before the confrontation. If you attempt to confront without evidence, you will most likely be lied to or stir up deep resentment in the person you are accusing.Sometimes the person being confronted will attempt to blame you for the very thing he/she has done. This is the kind of practice Kristy had:I just broke up with my bf of two years. It was a break-up/makeup relationship. He would do something wrong, like cheat, and somehow blame it on me; make me feel like it was my fault that he cheated, that somehow I drove him to it. Then he’d break up with me, and a few days later, we’d get back together.

    Sometimes you feel like causing a big scene to bring shame to the other person, and you end up just looking like a idiot.

    While confronting, deal with the source of the problem, your bf/gf, and don’t concentrate on the person they’ve cheated with. Sometimes you feel like bringing shame to the other person, and you end up just looking like a loser. Attempt to detect if your cheating bf/gf is truly repentant for what he/she has done. Some people are just sorry because they got caught. It will take time for you to know whether or not your bf/gf is truly sorry for their betrayal of you. Some people when confronted become defensive, belligerent, and angry. That is a good sign they have no intention of ever getting back with you again. See their reaction for what it is. Sometimes it’s just better to walk away and stay away.

    Determining whether or not you are going to attempt and salvage the relationship could be one of the most significant decisions you will ever make.

  • Consider a time-out from your relationship. Determining whether or not you are going to attempt and salvage the relationship could be one of the most significant decisions you will ever make. A time-out will give you a chance to get wise counsel from other people and determine whether or not the relationship is worth saving. Don’t make the mistake of KT: My ex bf was a jack and treated me so badly. He’d call me names and he’d cheat on me and give me the guilt journey telling I will never find anyone like him or even as good as him cause he is that unique. All my friends told me to leave himthat my friends are all that I need to be blessed, and a good fellow will come along when he comes along. But I didn’t listen to my friends, even tho’ they have given me very good advice for two years now. I just didn’t listen cause my ex beau sort of brain washed me in a way. Now that I understand and accept it, I am doing so much better.
  • It will take time for the relationship to heal, if ever. Trust has been shattered and recovering trust takes a long time.

    If you determine the relationship is salvageable, your cheating bf/gf will have to understand it will take time for the relationship to heal, if ever. Trust has been shattered and recovering trust takes a long time. In the end, if you determine the relationship cannot be healed or mended, take some off from dating to find yourself and permit yourself to become stronger. Some relationships cannot be saved no matter what you do. So don’t bring unnecessary drama and unnecessary hurt into your life by not letting go.

    Steven said something incredible when he commented:Everybody has free will and [my gf] had the will to cheat as she pleases and I can’t switch that. But I also have free will. The free will to not give her power over me and to stir on to lead a productive life. The people who loved me and the ones I loved were counting on me. I dropped my pride and cried out for help. Know your own self-worth and sob out for the help you need. You are worth it!

    Check out my other blogs that might help you if you’ve just been cheated on:

    when a boy love his phone ,whenever a text comes in he hides while he is textin so I cant see..

    and its not like I can read it because he always delete his text..it kills me when he does these things

    I have a bought that my bf cheat on my back side . N when ever m attempting to talk about this he begin blubbering in front of me n said no m not cheating on you m earnestly love u n all that . Plz tell me what to do . M emotionally confused . There is a war inbetween my heart n my brain .

    Dating someone for about two months and determined to budge in with her since her and i BOTH thought things were going so well. Had a journey planned to a convention before I embarked dating her so i could truly back out of it. Found out that while i was going t be on this tour, she was going to cheat with me with some other fellow. Confronted her about it and I forgave her. Month or two goes by, spotted that she was sending pics to some random stud, and then while I had some family issues happening at the moment and I was off attempting to mend them, she dreamed to visit the same boy from before to cheat on me. I love this lady, she keeps planning our future together, telling what we should do, what we will do in the future, but three times, and I still forgave her…will she truly do it again?

    Got a msg from a random female and fellow telling my gf cheated idk what to do I asked her about it but she said it wasn’t true..they where snapchats inbetween them

    my bf of nine years acts like he is single on Facebook and will ask anybody out on it, even his sister trys to get him with her friends. i can’t take it no more! when I told him I know what he’s up to, he says to stay out of his business :(. we met in middle school and I never been with anyone else. I love him so much!! this makes me not want to live anymore…

    Yea I bet his friends list private is Two! Same boat just opposite Honestly im sure your a beautiful female that a man will swoop you up in seconds! Hol ya head up baby chick!

    I am 37, my gf is 25.. I recently had suspicions that my gf cheated on me with one of her work man friends.. I confronted him.. He came clean and told me it happened a duo times.. I confronted my gf about it about two weeks ago, we talked for hours about it.. I was crushed!! I haven’t been no angel my entire life but she is one woman that ive been truly faithful to.. I can’t stop thinking about this everyday.. Knowing that she did this to me.. I want to stir past this, I told her that I want this relationship.. she seems genuinely upset about this and wants to stir on with our relationship. I just don’t know how to budge on from this.. Any and all advice would help!!

    We are hurting with you. Stay strong. You deserve so much better! Talk with us online anytime, we are here for you! http://www.thehopeline.com/GetHelp/

    My gf and I have been together for eight months now. She admitted to telling that she loved her ex during our fourth month and then she told another ex she had feelings for him during our seventh. Idk what to do Bc I love her so much. Please help

    Me n my bf almost three yrs in love .but now he telling that he don’t need me anymore.i think he have another paramour..wht should I do.i don’t know..I love him alot .now adays i howling n mad .should I make fresh bf to make him jealous?plz help me.😢

    Our talk system can translate many languages. Please talk with a HopeCoach about what is going on with you ex. We are here to listen and help. http://www.thehopeline.com/gethelp.

    its either u lve her or u leave her alone shame in this one

    Leave her. There is nothing much to be said here. If she had respect for you and your common well-doings, then the 2nd man wouldn’t even exist. Face the truth that there are endless opportunities out there to meet your true love.

    I have been dating this damsel and I went to see family for a week and she texts me that she was unfaithful in our relationship and that she kissed another man. I was enraged but I didn’t let her she it. I love her so much and I would do anything to make it work inbetween us. She says she is indeed sorry and that she needs time to gather herself, I am worried so bad. She said that wile she gathers herself we aren’t dating and that she wants me to be there for her when she is ready, but I might just be assuming the worst but I think this entire “gathering myself” thing is her attempting to get with the other fellow, because we aren’t dating and it won’t be cheating and she wants to come back to me when it doesn’t work out. I love her so much and I would do anything for her. I need her in my life and I need help. What should I do?

    I love how the author’s very first advice is not to tell anyone. Keeping your playmate’s infidelity secret only helps them maintain a veneer of normality and hurts you instead. What garbage.

    I am sorry you misunderstood Dawson’s advice. Part one is about protecting your own self-worth and Dawson suggests finding people you can trust to talk to about what happened, “Surround yourself with good friends and wise counselors who can help you sort through your emotions and detect what has actually taken place.” HopeCoaches are available on talk 24/7.

    My gf of two years cheated on me with my friend for a year. She can’t face me to talk about why she did it

    Just found out my gf is cheating things have been difficult for a while and she left her facebook on and I found messages she gave me her password for her facebook and email address just a duo on months ago when she had a stroke and i nursed her back to health I got into serious finical difficulty since I had a lot of time off work and walking a lean line now with my bosses. She has bipolar and it could be down to that but seen she’s on pof and free dating as well as sleeping with her ex. I just don’t know what to do due to her instability she was manhandled by her ex spouse as was her two children who look up to me as a father. We’ve been together for almost three years and have been engaged we announced it when she had the stroke but she recently called it off telling she’s scarred about getting tied down again. Any ideas about what to do as I don’t want to lose her and with her bipolar it may quiet down again and lodge but things are difficult at the moment.

    I am so sorry you are going through this. You sound like a truly stable and loyal person. This is a lot for one person to treat. You can talk with us anytime 24/7 and we can help you sort through some solutions. We are here for you – http://www.thehopeline.com/gethelp/

    My fiance cheated on me last summer. We have been together for ten years, engaged for Four. We have two children together, and his two children from a previous marriage live with us also. He confessed that he cheated on me and that the doll was pregnant. I told him I was willing to work on our relationship and forgive him. He told me he had feelings for her, and was not in love with me anymore. She ended up having a miscarriage a few months later, and he assured me that they were just gonna be friends, they also worked together. I was not ok with that and just had to deal with it as I was willing to do anything to make it work. He told me last December that he wasnt communticating with her anymore, they were just coworkers. It was very hard and there have been lots of fights and arguments. Then two months ago she contacted me on facebook and told me they were still watching each other and screenshotted tons of text messages. He told her he loved her, and was still sleeping with her the entire time. I am very hurt and dont know if i can trust him again. He has lied to me this entire time. He begged me for another chance and told me I am the one he wants to be with. Im not persuaded that hes not still talking to her. She no longer works with him. I dont know what to do or believe anymore.

    I was moving my gf’s phone off the bed the other night when I noticed a reply to a Craigslist ad she posted for Feb and I’m pretty tore up I don’t know what I should do next monthwould be four years and we live together how do I confront her

    My fiance and i have been together for about almost three years. We were suppose to get married in December. Our relationship for about a year was pretty unhealty. i never dreamed to leave and neither did she. I never treated her right and disrespected her on uncountable occasions and never would listen to her. The night of my bday i had shoved her and humilated her infront of all of our friends. A few days later she said she couldnt take it anymore and left. There was alot of grey area. Well while she was gone she ended up meeting someone. I found the evidence a few weeks after my bday. We continued to stay separated but she said she desired to work it out and go to counseling. I recently found out durning the time we were still apart but after i found out she cheated on me, she sent the damsel flowers. She is living back home now and we are still going to counseling. She said she has completley cut it off with the woman but i just dont know and im very hurt

    My gf cheated on me at a work party utterly buzzed with a coworker and I don’t know what to do

    i had a flawless relationship of three & half years and then she went to calcutta for her studies and i was all alone i felt like i was left out and after few months she commenced to disregard me she blocked me in instagram, whatsapp and even put my phone no in reject list then all of unexpected a dude txted me telling stop calling his gf i was mad but the fact was that man was from the same college where my gf was studying iam feeling so down right now and i dont know what to do.

    ok here goes i never done this but any help would be appreciated. In Oct of two thousand fourteen my wifey passed away at forty two abruptly devastated me, for about six months i was very alone so went on dating sites and found a dame i embarked dating. Way to soon i know now. well to make a long story brief after a few months i moved her in with me and things i thought where going ok, by the way by me moving her in it helped her one hundred times financially and i pay all the bills and ask her for no financial support at all. So i find out in August after we had a argument a crimson flag went off to check dating sites and wham there she was on the one we met on, Since February meeting guys behind my back at least six to Ten. and oh yea she was married three times before and never ever talks about her past and gets mad when i ask her to. so i cleared my head and the next day confronted her about it and she said it was my fault i was pushing her away by not getting over my wifey. well then i found her on at least eight more sites and her texts messages where very detailed and she admitted to meeting guys for attention i wasn’t providing her blah blah blah. So since then i put my life on hold and have done nothing but work on this relationship attempting to stir forward and yes i put ninety nine percent of my baggage down about my wifey because i know how i was and it was very hard to let go. After being Married twenty four years in a 100% trustful marriage. I linked out FB accounts and said no more hiding her phone and no secretes. Well I’m having a truly hard time trusting her again even tho’ she says she’s not doing anything. I’m not sure but i think she may be a serial cheater from everything i read. She say she can just shut her mind off and not think of anything like she has no guilt and can act like everything is excellent. when we talk she always says I’m rehashing what happened. WONDER WHY!! I lost twenty five Lbs in three weeks over this krap and I’m sick of being sick over it. its been over two months now and I’m still attempting but i got this bad feeling its just a matter of time before she does it again. there is a lot more i could tell you but i wont bore you. any thoughts or advice would be superb. Thanks.

    I’ve been with my beau for two years now, he’s done various things in the past year (messaging ladies/saving there numbers/social media names to add later on etc) in August he went on holiday with his dad his cousin and there two friends for five days, I thought everything was ideal before he left, During the holiday he added a doll from his cousins phone and they obviously began to talk (this was on an app he had swore he never had) and obviously just downloaded it while he was on holiday… I was fully oblivious of this until 1-2 weeks after his comeback, we was driving in his car and he’s music was playing – he got a FaceTime call from a number saved under ‘A’ and I obviously questioned him he said he didn’t know so I accepted the call and to my surprise was a youthful lady in her brassiere as soon as she spotted me she disconnected the phone. I attempted to ring but there was no response so I text her from his phone telling who is this, she claimed it was the wrong person.. I was going crazy at my beau attempting to get the truth from him we ultimately got to his friends house I attempted calling her again the female refused to speak to me and my beau was on the phone to her screaming telling ‘who the F are you how dare you lie about me’ ‘I don’t know you, I have a gf’ I was weeping so much I had to walk away for a breath – but when I walked away he begged her not to tell me I woke up to a message from her the next morning with her telling me everything he had said he told her he wished ‘a serious relationship’ and asked for nude photos it honestly crushed me- he had told her she wasn’t permitted to save any of his messages she had mentioned to me she found this suspicious- she literally told me all the things he was telling to her and while he was on holiday he was being so nice to me. Earlier in the day before I had found out he had never been more horrible to me, he made me get in his car was driving ridiculously quick telling me my mother and father think I’m a liability and they hate me and I also suffer with depression and had attempted once before to commit suicide- he even said that they wouldn’t have cared if I did and that no one would care apart from him, as we came to a set of ref lights I attempted to get out the car and he grabbed me by my neck, the way he looked at me was not the person I fell in love with, he was so different this day and later in the day is when the female face timed him while we was in the car together, She told me the next day that that day he was begging to meet her but she was busy. This is obviously why he was so evil to me. I don’t know what to do because I haven’t loved anyone more than him – it’s now November and last month I found him watching explosions of porn online and texting one of those hook-up people things, We’ve argued so much since and I think it’s the underlying issue that how much agony he caused me I just can’t forgive him I would never be unloyal to who I have made a commitment too- I’ve attempted to leave him fairly a few times since and he blackmails me by telling degrading things about my figure and that no one would want me, he also says so much that he will ‘bait’ me and post pictures of me online, he’s told me to die after attempting to commit suicide and told me no one would care if I did, he is always telling things about my bod which I now fully hate, I’m so stuck and I don’t know what to do he was everything I would’ve ever asked for in the very first year of our relationship, I don’t even know who he is anymore – he says if he can’t have me no one can, He’s stopped me from watching all of my friends but one and even then I’m not permitted to go out she will have to come to my house, during arguments if I attempt to defend myself to hurt me he tells me he’s cheated on me with nine damsels all are ‘so much better’ than me, he says I’m a ‘bed warmer’ and asks me ‘how his other women taste’ he does whatever he likes when he likes and I feel he just sees me as his possession now. A number of times when I have attempted to leave him he tells me he’s going to kill himself he has even cut my name and lots of other things into his gams and sent pictures to me, he’s text his mum telling ‘you won’t see me again and to thank my gf’ I honestly don’t know what to do I haven’t told anyone. I am so stuck and so lost

    It sounds like you are in a physically and emotionally abusive relationship. All of the manipulation and cheating is a reflection on his character. You may need help leaving him. Do you have someone you can trust and tell about what is happening? We are here for you 24/7 to help you work through a plan of escape and to provide resources. Click the “talk now” button to commence the conversation with a HopeCoach.

    My woman cheat on me, few days ago she said she going back to her sister house but turns fthat she going to meet with the fellow she cheat with, fortunately Her phone left in my car and I drove away and there I eyed her talk and i read everything, that how i know she cheating on me. Then I just play her game, but the anguish is there, what should I do?

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    hi guys i know most of u wont be interested in my story. But i liked a damsel we commenced to talk and after a few weeks she told she was divorced. I was heart cracked but i tho’ hey i liked her when i did know this how can i say no to her when i got to know her now. After this i began to love her more then before. I wished to make up for other things that happened to her in past. Surely i made mistakes but i did what i could for her. She was bipolar when we were in 3rd year of med school. That was hardest time for us. All of unexpected some days she used to asked me to beg she didn’t got pregnant. And i used to laugh like wtfff? How i didnt even touch u. Years went by and we went back to our countries for house job in hospitals. And i was mad and sad about that, I embarked to be upset and we had arguments and those argument led to fight. We went back and forward. One she will b all fine next day a stranger. Then after duo months she said she need time to think anyways we stopped talking. I got to know from my friends thats she is talking to other people but when i used to ask her she used to say im not and im studying for exams. Anyways i love her so much that i never said a word about it. I loved her so much that i got to know that she cheated on me many times thats y she used to say Plead IM NOT PREGNANT. Today i got to know this its horrible for me. I gave everything to that lady just cos hse was violated she said she is blessed that she got divorced so she found me and i made her love life again. now i know she is there living blessed life and me here thinking howling and imagining her.

    Hey my gf cheated on me because I was always accusing her of so she had never done anything t till now I feel like it was my fault for pushing her that far but I also feel hurt wat should I do

    I think my ex cheated on me while we were dating. We broke up back in July but we were still living together until the end of October when we both moved out into different places. Via those months we would sleep together on and off and we joked around telling that we became friends with benefits. After the stir out, I attempted to stay in contact because he says that we would get back together in time. We broke up because we were fighting a lot and we agreed that we both needed space to grow. I spotted him a duo of times and he’d flirt with me and made it seem like he dreamed me. I didn’t want to rush him but I desired him back. But I determined I’d wait til he was ready to get back together. And now just recently I found out he’s been watching someone for awhile. He got my hopes up, broke my heart and didn’t even care. He showcased no sympathy, lied even after I caught them out together. How do I budge on? This is my very first break up and I’ve dated him for six and half years, we even talked about marriage. I’m going crazy…. plz help….

    Contemplation is the cousin of an act

    i spotted my Girlfriends picture on another guys IG ans she told me she is modeling footwear for the dude, The boy also posted a picture with my damsel friend on her birth day, eve posted another picture of the stud and my girlfirnd on fresh year. Still my woman friend is telling me that she is not the person posting the picture, she said the fellow is crushing on her. What should i do ??

    My gf who was one year junior than me was with me in relationship a few years ago… Then she commenced to get affairs with some other stud who is one of my friend. I don’t have anything to do but I still plead for her and I will proceed to beg for her until I get her back….

    Lately my gf cheated on me after one year relationship , I found out she was with her ex bf for four years while being with me . She was going out late night lately telling that going to meet her relative and I followed her car then it was her ex bf house . I have called him and tell him the situation then both of us confronted infront, then she says she wants her ex BF . After few days she came back to me telling that it was her mistake and ask for forgiveness I was angry at very first and scolded her for doing bad to me then I accept her after few weeks she is still blaming me telling that it’s not more the same and I am treating her bad but to be fair I am attempting my best and she says that she starts to hate me . And I found out yesterday she is using another phone and was online till morning . To be fair I don’t know what to do …

    The boy I’ve been dating for two years have told me that he has feelings for another woman. But he doesn’t love her as much as he loves me (He said this in his own words). I’m not sure what to do. I am in so much agony.. He has cheated on me before but that was over a year ago and he attempted his very best to regain my trust and when I almost trusted him fully he goes to tell me this.. I confronted him about her and he didn’t hesitate to admit his wrong doing. I don’t know anymore. Ugh.

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